Consequentialist reasoning which seems to align fairly well with Alicorn’s conclusions (at least the one about it being in some situations correct to hide the truth by being selective even when this in some sense deceives the listener, and at the same time being less correct to directly lie) are touched on here if that’s useful to you.
Essentially: You don’t know for sure if a person wants general encouragement/niceties or a genuine critique. One way to deal with this is to say something nice+encouraging+true which leaves room for you to switch to “okay but here is what you could do better” mode without contradicting your previous nicety if and only if they communicate clearly they want your full opinion after hearing your careful wording.
Consequentialist reasoning which seems to align fairly well with Alicorn’s conclusions (at least the one about it being in some situations correct to hide the truth by being selective even when this in some sense deceives the listener, and at the same time being less correct to directly lie) are touched on here if that’s useful to you.
Essentially: You don’t know for sure if a person wants general encouragement/niceties or a genuine critique. One way to deal with this is to say something nice+encouraging+true which leaves room for you to switch to “okay but here is what you could do better” mode without contradicting your previous nicety if and only if they communicate clearly they want your full opinion after hearing your careful wording.