Walking is not a cognitive burden. Walking on a tightrope is. Being able to say whatever I feel like saying without having to analyze it constantly for punishment is the equivalent of simple walking. I may tell the truth in 90-99 percent of the statements I make, but when I get put into a context of punishment, suddenly I have to worry about the consequences of making what would otherwise be a very small step away from the straight and narrow.
Well, I feel like I’m walking on a tightrope much less when I’m allowed to be honest about everything than when I feel like there are things I’d be supposed to lie about.
yes of course. Someone asks how I’m doing. I’m having a terrible day but say fine because I don’t want to talk about it. Is this example clear enough for you?
That statement only makes the web of lies/things that technically don’t count as lies I have to keep in my head to stay on Alicorn’s good side even more complicated.
I’m not that complicated and I’d rather you didn’t pin the entire intricacy of socialization on me personally. I’m okay with phatics like “fine”, but if you’re actually talking to me, specifically, I’ll also take “enh” or other non-information as a sign not to pursue the conversation as long as I’m reasonably on the ball and you can also tell me “I’d rather not talk about that”.
You’re aware I did not invent the tire slashing metaphor, right? You seem to be reacting very strongly and specifically to it. I linked a source the first time I used it here.
Walking is not a cognitive burden. Walking on a tightrope is. Being able to say whatever I feel like saying without having to analyze it constantly for punishment is the equivalent of simple walking. I may tell the truth in 90-99 percent of the statements I make, but when I get put into a context of punishment, suddenly I have to worry about the consequences of making what would otherwise be a very small step away from the straight and narrow.
Well, I feel like I’m walking on a tightrope much less when I’m allowed to be honest about everything than when I feel like there are things I’d be supposed to lie about.
My confusion increases. If you say whatever you feel like, you sometimes lie?
yes of course. Someone asks how I’m doing. I’m having a terrible day but say fine because I don’t want to talk about it. Is this example clear enough for you?
As noted elsewhere, that’s not really a lie, because “How are you?” isn’t actually a question, it’s more of a greeting protocol.
That statement only makes the web of lies/things that technically don’t count as lies I have to keep in my head to stay on Alicorn’s good side even more complicated.
I’m not that complicated and I’d rather you didn’t pin the entire intricacy of socialization on me personally. I’m okay with phatics like “fine”, but if you’re actually talking to me, specifically, I’ll also take “enh” or other non-information as a sign not to pursue the conversation as long as I’m reasonably on the ball and you can also tell me “I’d rather not talk about that”.
That’s good to know but I wouldn’t have guessed it from what you said in the post about slashing tires.
You’re aware I did not invent the tire slashing metaphor, right? You seem to be reacting very strongly and specifically to it. I linked a source the first time I used it here.