but only slightly, don’t say you liked activities you loathed otherwise you’ll be asked back, say they were ok but not your cup of tea etc)
In that case a real honest answer might be: “I felt uncomfortable during that activity but I don’t know whether it’s because of the activity or because it’s I generally focus to much on the negative.”
That gives the person you are dealing with a lot of useful information to interact with you. Sharing something deeper about yourself builds trust. If the person is well intentioned they can use the information in a way that makes the interaction for both of you better.
The goal of honest communication is to give the other person useful information. Transmitting more useful information is being more honest.
If you just say your loathe the activity or you say you liked it, you might be holding something back.
If you have a trustworthy friendship than knowing about your emotional state is useful information for your friend.
Your friend might be good at reading body language and be able to tell the difference between your fake smile and a real smile but it makes it so much harder for a friend to help you when you aren’t open about what you are feeling.
To me not being open about your emotions on a deep level when you are with friends or loved ones feels like defecting in a prisoner dilemma. You might get some immediate benefit but overall it’s not the path of the game tree that’s optimal. To the extend that there are people who can’t deal with me being open about what I feel I don’t want them as friends or loved ones.
In that case a real honest answer might be: “I felt uncomfortable during that activity but I don’t know whether it’s because of the activity or because it’s I generally focus to much on the negative.”
That gives the person you are dealing with a lot of useful information to interact with you. Sharing something deeper about yourself builds trust. If the person is well intentioned they can use the information in a way that makes the interaction for both of you better.
The goal of honest communication is to give the other person useful information. Transmitting more useful information is being more honest.
If you just say your loathe the activity or you say you liked it, you might be holding something back. If you have a trustworthy friendship than knowing about your emotional state is useful information for your friend.
Your friend might be good at reading body language and be able to tell the difference between your fake smile and a real smile but it makes it so much harder for a friend to help you when you aren’t open about what you are feeling.
To me not being open about your emotions on a deep level when you are with friends or loved ones feels like defecting in a prisoner dilemma. You might get some immediate benefit but overall it’s not the path of the game tree that’s optimal. To the extend that there are people who can’t deal with me being open about what I feel I don’t want them as friends or loved ones.