The way I do polyamory definitely seems like it has red elements to me. The essential emotion here, for me, is feeling scared/trapped at the idea that someone might own me, and feeling… somewhat repulsed, but far more so confused, at the idea that I might want to own someone else. “I swear by my life and my love of it that I will never live for the sake of another man, nor ask another man to live for mine.”
That said there is another flavor that feels less red. It is saying “I throw out the rules that can protect me; I give you the ability to hurt me; I rely only on your kindness and decency and love for me.” It is trust, like the moment before you jump from a cliff and you have to have faith that your bungee cord will hold. This seems… maybe green? But green doesn’t have the risk/leap of faith element. It is certainly strongly opposed to black and (perhaps oddly) to white. White is orderly and safe, while the spirit of this flavor is more “The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation. The only place outside Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell.”
One thing really interesting I think you brought up here is the idea of trust being a Green concept. It was something I tried to place on the color wheel (in order to place myself) while speaking with my friends of mine and I just sort of implicitly assumed it was white (prosocial, interacting with others, etc), but reading what you said here, I think you’re totally right. That close your eyes, surrender yourself, kind of trust is definitely not white, like I originally thought. (In comparison to trust in the rule of law, which does seem kind of white, insofar as all things relating to rule of law are white.)
I feel like it’s probably RG. Blue is too cognitive for something that seems so instinctual and impulsive, but Red and Green are all about instinct and impulse.
The way I do polyamory definitely seems like it has red elements to me. The essential emotion here, for me, is feeling scared/trapped at the idea that someone might own me, and feeling… somewhat repulsed, but far more so confused, at the idea that I might want to own someone else. “I swear by my life and my love of it that I will never live for the sake of another man, nor ask another man to live for mine.”
That said there is another flavor that feels less red. It is saying “I throw out the rules that can protect me; I give you the ability to hurt me; I rely only on your kindness and decency and love for me.” It is trust, like the moment before you jump from a cliff and you have to have faith that your bungee cord will hold. This seems… maybe green? But green doesn’t have the risk/leap of faith element. It is certainly strongly opposed to black and (perhaps oddly) to white. White is orderly and safe, while the spirit of this flavor is more “The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation. The only place outside Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell.”
One thing really interesting I think you brought up here is the idea of trust being a Green concept. It was something I tried to place on the color wheel (in order to place myself) while speaking with my friends of mine and I just sort of implicitly assumed it was white (prosocial, interacting with others, etc), but reading what you said here, I think you’re totally right. That close your eyes, surrender yourself, kind of trust is definitely not white, like I originally thought. (In comparison to trust in the rule of law, which does seem kind of white, insofar as all things relating to rule of law are white.)
I feel like it’s probably RG. Blue is too cognitive for something that seems so instinctual and impulsive, but Red and Green are all about instinct and impulse.