I know this doesn’t square with the CFAR canon, but in my experience changing things about myself, it’s surprisingly often enough for me just to notice that I want the thing to change, and then it just happens without further effort (the two examples that jump to mind are 1. drastically improving my handwriting and 2. transforming myself from a bully into a ray of sunshine). I’ve been doing this one for the last ~20 hours and it feels like it falls in that category—I’ve always noticed when I’m doing it in the past, the only difference is that now I’ve decided to do something about it.
Also, Oli is pretty good at protesting vehemently when I put myself down, so I have a reliable external enforcement mechanism :)
Seems interesting but tricky to set TAPs that will reliably hit this. Maybe ask friends to help you monitor?
I know this doesn’t square with the CFAR canon, but in my experience changing things about myself, it’s surprisingly often enough for me just to notice that I want the thing to change, and then it just happens without further effort (the two examples that jump to mind are 1. drastically improving my handwriting and 2. transforming myself from a bully into a ray of sunshine). I’ve been doing this one for the last ~20 hours and it feels like it falls in that category—I’ve always noticed when I’m doing it in the past, the only difference is that now I’ve decided to do something about it.
Also, Oli is pretty good at protesting vehemently when I put myself down, so I have a reliable external enforcement mechanism :)
Sounds good to me. I’ve also had that experience, but I’ve also known people who would have a really hard time with something like this.