Wow. This is particularly interesting to me, because I already felt this way without knowing why, not having consciously examined the feeling. I know that I already felt uncomfortable around gift-giving holidays, and this provides context to that; I don’t particularly enjoy receiving incorrect things, and indeed, I have several boxes full of incorrect things following me around that I can’t get rid of (even if I can’t think of any reason to have or use a thing, it feels like losing hit points to dispose of it). For the same reason, I feel uncomfortable giving incorrect things, but the conventions of the relevant holidays makes it unacceptable to go looking for the kind of information I need to give correct things (having noticed this for a while, I switched over to exclusively giving gift certificates a couple years back, it seems to help).
Now that I’ve consciously identified the feeling, however, I can more proactively approach the problem, by communicating these feelings to those with whom I’d normally exchange gifts.
Wow. This is particularly interesting to me, because I already felt this way without knowing why, not having consciously examined the feeling. I know that I already felt uncomfortable around gift-giving holidays, and this provides context to that; I don’t particularly enjoy receiving incorrect things, and indeed, I have several boxes full of incorrect things following me around that I can’t get rid of (even if I can’t think of any reason to have or use a thing, it feels like losing hit points to dispose of it). For the same reason, I feel uncomfortable giving incorrect things, but the conventions of the relevant holidays makes it unacceptable to go looking for the kind of information I need to give correct things (having noticed this for a while, I switched over to exclusively giving gift certificates a couple years back, it seems to help).
Now that I’ve consciously identified the feeling, however, I can more proactively approach the problem, by communicating these feelings to those with whom I’d normally exchange gifts.