The advice in here might very well be of the “it seems obvious once you’ve read it” kind, but I think it’s still useful
The problem is not that people don’t know what to do. Just recently, I heard a similar difficulty of esports players: They know what to do—farm gold regularly, kill enemies, keep map awareness etc., whatever. It is just in the moment that the right action is elusive.
“Why didn’t you retreat when you were low on health?”
“I knew I was low on health and had to retreat! But I thought the way to retreat was left (where more trouble turned up) and not right.”
Feel free to take that as a metaphor for relationships if you want XD.
That’s why I like the section about the Freakout Tree so much: It describes a common conflict pattern and provides a resolution approach worth imitating.
Explicitly asking “Hey, can I have the tree?” has saved our bacon more than once.
The problem is not that people don’t know what to do. Just recently, I heard a similar difficulty of esports players: They know what to do—farm gold regularly, kill enemies, keep map awareness etc., whatever. It is just in the moment that the right action is elusive.
Feel free to take that as a metaphor for relationships if you want XD.
That’s why I like the section about the Freakout Tree so much: It describes a common conflict pattern and provides a resolution approach worth imitating.