Our instincts are amazingly suited to a neolithic world, but in the 21st century, we should try to adapt to a world with strangers.
Finding out the right balance for the 21st century can be tricky. Like, you may gradually overcome your social insticts and keep reaping rewards for some time… and then once you make a blunder in front of a wrong person who will then ruin your life (maybe for a completely stupid reason, but perhaps the fact that sometimes people ruin your life for a stupid reason did contribute to the existence of the social instinct).
I don’t have a good answer here. Instincts are outdated. Personal experience misses the black swans… until it doesn’t but then it is too late.
Finding out the right balance for the 21st century can be tricky. Like, you may gradually overcome your social insticts and keep reaping rewards for some time… and then once you make a blunder in front of a wrong person who will then ruin your life (maybe for a completely stupid reason, but perhaps the fact that sometimes people ruin your life for a stupid reason did contribute to the existence of the social instinct).
I don’t have a good answer here. Instincts are outdated. Personal experience misses the black swans… until it doesn’t but then it is too late.