As for bearing, once the child is born that’s a sunk cost; as for “being the primary caregiver for a newborn”… Wait. So we’re not talking about killing a child straight after birth but after a while? (A week? A month? A year?)
I can’t see why that makes a difference in the context of my question, so feel free to choose whichever interpretation you prefer.
For my part, it seems entirely plausible to me that a person’s understanding of what it means to be the primary caregiver for a child will change between time T1, when they are pregnant with that child, and time T2, when the child has been born… just as it seems plausible that a person’s understanding of what a three-week stay in the Caribbean will be like will change between time T1, when they are at home looking at brochures, and time T2, when their airplane is touching down. That sort of thing happens to people all the time. So it doesn’t seem at all odd to me that they might want one thing at T1 and a different thing at T2, which was the behavior you were expressing incredulity about. That seems even more true the more time passes… say, at time T3, when they’ve been raising the child for a month.
Incidentally, I certainly agree with you that bearing the child is a sunk cost once the child is born. If you’re suggesting that, therefore, parents can’t change their desires with respect to bearing the child once it’s born, I conclude that our models of humans are vastly different. If, alternatively, you’re suggesting that it’s an error for parents to change their desires with respect to bearing the child once it’s born, you may well be right, but in that case I have to conclude “I can’t imagine why” was meant rhetorically.
If, alternatively, you’re suggesting that it’s an error for parents to change their desires with respect to bearing the child once it’s born, you may well be right, but in that case I have to conclude “I can’t imagine why” was meant rhetorically.
More like I was assuming too much stuff in the implicit antecedent of the conditional whose consequent is “would want”, but yeah, what I meant is that it’s an error for parents to change their desires with respect to bearing the child once it’s born.
As for bearing, once the child is born that’s a sunk cost; as for “being the primary caregiver for a newborn”… Wait. So we’re not talking about killing a child straight after birth but after a while? (A week? A month? A year?)
I can’t see why that makes a difference in the context of my question, so feel free to choose whichever interpretation you prefer.
For my part, it seems entirely plausible to me that a person’s understanding of what it means to be the primary caregiver for a child will change between time T1, when they are pregnant with that child, and time T2, when the child has been born… just as it seems plausible that a person’s understanding of what a three-week stay in the Caribbean will be like will change between time T1, when they are at home looking at brochures, and time T2, when their airplane is touching down. That sort of thing happens to people all the time. So it doesn’t seem at all odd to me that they might want one thing at T1 and a different thing at T2, which was the behavior you were expressing incredulity about. That seems even more true the more time passes… say, at time T3, when they’ve been raising the child for a month.
Incidentally, I certainly agree with you that bearing the child is a sunk cost once the child is born. If you’re suggesting that, therefore, parents can’t change their desires with respect to bearing the child once it’s born, I conclude that our models of humans are vastly different. If, alternatively, you’re suggesting that it’s an error for parents to change their desires with respect to bearing the child once it’s born, you may well be right, but in that case I have to conclude “I can’t imagine why” was meant rhetorically.
More like I was assuming too much stuff in the implicit antecedent of the conditional whose consequent is “would want”, but yeah, what I meant is that it’s an error for parents to change their desires with respect to bearing the child once it’s born.