I agree (in general) with Xenophon’s advice: Calm down, do whatever you’re comfortable with spiritually, and in the worst case scenario call it “God” to keep the peace with whoever you want to keep the peace with.
With that said, if you still want advice, I deconverted myself a year ago and have since successfully corrupted others, and I’ve been wanting to codify the fallacies I saw anyway. Before I start: bear in mind that you might be wrong. I find it very unlikely that any form of Abrahamic theism is true, but if you care about the truth you have to keep an open mind.
Here are some common fallacious arguments and argumentative techniques I’ve seen used by religion (and other ideologies, of course). They include exercises which I think you’d benefit from practising; if you get stuck on any of ’em, send me a PM and I’ll be glad to help out.
Abuse and Neglect of Definitions
Whenever anyone tries to convince you of the truth or falsehood of some claim, make sure to ask them exactly what that means—and repeat the question until it’s totally clear. You’d be amazed how many of the central theological tenets of Abrahamism are literally meaningless, since almost no-one can define them, and among those who can no two will give the same definition.
For example: God created the Universe. Pretty important part of the theology, right? So what does it mean, exactly?
A smart theist will say: God caused the Universe to exist.
Okay, great. What does “cause” mean?
Seriously? You know what “cause” means; it’s a word you use all the time.
(This is a classic part of this fallacy. In our own minds we have definitions that work in everyday life, but not for talking about something as abstract as God. In this specific case, the distinction is as follows:)
When I say “X caused Y” (where X and Y are events) I mean: within the laws of nature as I know them Y wouldn’t have happened if X hadn’t. But God created the Universe outside (or “before”) any laws of nature, so what does “cause” mean?
… and I’ve got no idea what an Abrahamist theist would answer, since I’ve yet to hear one who could. Although of course I’d love to.
For homework: Play the same game, in your head (I assume your old religious self is still knocking around up there) or with a smart religious friend, on some of the other basic tenets of Abrahamism: God is all-powerful, God is all-knowing, God is (all-)good, God is formless. Similarly with any statement of the form “God loves X”, “God wants X”, or even “God did X” or “God said X” (how can the Cause of Everything be said to have “said” any statement more than any other?)
Intellectual Package Deals
Most religious doctrines are comprised of a huge number of logically independent statements. In Abrahamic theism, we have the various qualities of God mentioned above, as well as a bunch of moral axioms, beliefs regarding the afterlife, and so on. “Proofs” of the doctrines as a whole will often treat the whole collection as a unit, so they only need to bother proving a small fraction.
For instance: A proof of Judaism one of my teachers was fond of was based on proving the Revelation at Mt Sinai—God made a thundering announcement to six hundred thousand families, announcing Its existence and several commandments (there’s a dispute as to how many).
Okay, let’s say I accept the proof that the Revelation happened. This points to a very powerful speaker, but does it indicate that the speaker is all-powerful? That it is good? That it is telling the truth when it claims to be the being that brought us out of Egypt? That I am morally obligated to do what it wants?
For homework: Write down as many of the axioms of Christianity as you can think of. Once you have a list, look at the behaviour of practising Christians you know, and try to see if it actually follows from the axioms you’ve got. Add axioms and repeat. (I did this with a religious friend of mine about Orthodox Judaism, and we got to at least fifteen before we got bored.)
Query your memory, Google, your books, and whichever humans you feel comfortable for proofs of Christianity. Check off which of the axioms on your list they actually address—before you even bother to check the proofs for coherence.
X is not satisfactorily explained by modern science… therefore God/soul/etc.
(Including the specific cases where X=the existence of the universe, complex life, or consciousness.)
Aside from almost always falling under #2 (and sometimes #1 as well), arguments of this form are mathematically fallacious. To understand why, though, you have to do the maths. You can find it on this site as “Bayes’s Rule” and it’s well worth reading the full-length articles about it, but the short version is as follows:
We have two competing models, A and B, and an observation E. Then E will constitute evidence for A over B if and only if A predicts E with higher probability than B predicts E – that is, if I were to query an A-believer and a B-believer before I ran the experiment, the former would be more likely to get it right than than the latter.
This is easiest to see in cases where the models predict outcomes with very high or low probability. For example: If I ask a believer in Newtonian mechanics whether a rock will keep moving after I throw it (in a vacuum), he’ll say “yes” (probability 1). If I ask an Aristotelian physicist, he’ll say “no” (probability 0). And lo, the rock did keep moving. Therefore, the Newtonian assigned a higher probability to (what we now know is) the correct outcome than the Aristotelian, so this experiment is evidence for Newtonianism over Aristotelianism.
Got that? Then let’s take a specifically religious example: as far as I know, modern science does not have a good explanation for the origin of life. We have a vague idea, but our best explanation is based on some pretty astounding coincidences. Religion, on the other hand, has: God created life. There’s your explanation.
But translating into maths we get: if atheist science were true, the probability of life arising would be low, since it would take some unlikely coincidences. If theist science (normal laws of physics + God) were true, the probability of life arising would be...
Wait a second. What’s the probability of God deciding to create life? We might say we have no idea, since God is inscrutable, in which case the argument obviously can’t continue. But the clever apologist might say: God is good, which is to say It wants happiness. Therefore, it must create minds. So the probability of it creating life is actually quite high.
Except that God, being all-powerful, is perfectly capable of making happiness without life – a bunch of super-happy abstract beings like Itself, for example. So what’s the probability of It “bothering” to create life? It has no reason not too, having infinite time and energy, but It has an infinite number of courses of action – what’s the probability of It picking the specific one we observed happening?
I’m tempted to say that 1/(infinity) = 0, but that’s not mathematically sound, so we’ll leave it at “I don’t know”. Regardless, the point is that arguments of this form fail once you actually look for numbers.
This answer is already long enough to qualify as a post in itself, so I’ll leave off here (although there’s lots more to talk about). Feel free to ask if I wasn’t clear, or once you’ve finished all the exercises.
I agree (in general) with Xenophon’s advice: Calm down, do whatever you’re comfortable with spiritually, and in the worst case scenario call it “God” to keep the peace with whoever you want to keep the peace with.
With that said, if you still want advice, I deconverted myself a year ago and have since successfully corrupted others, and I’ve been wanting to codify the fallacies I saw anyway. Before I start: bear in mind that you might be wrong. I find it very unlikely that any form of Abrahamic theism is true, but if you care about the truth you have to keep an open mind.
Here are some common fallacious arguments and argumentative techniques I’ve seen used by religion (and other ideologies, of course). They include exercises which I think you’d benefit from practising; if you get stuck on any of ’em, send me a PM and I’ll be glad to help out.
Abuse and Neglect of Definitions
Whenever anyone tries to convince you of the truth or falsehood of some claim, make sure to ask them exactly what that means—and repeat the question until it’s totally clear. You’d be amazed how many of the central theological tenets of Abrahamism are literally meaningless, since almost no-one can define them, and among those who can no two will give the same definition.
For example: God created the Universe. Pretty important part of the theology, right? So what does it mean, exactly?
A smart theist will say: God caused the Universe to exist.
Okay, great. What does “cause” mean?
Seriously? You know what “cause” means; it’s a word you use all the time.
(This is a classic part of this fallacy. In our own minds we have definitions that work in everyday life, but not for talking about something as abstract as God. In this specific case, the distinction is as follows:)
When I say “X caused Y” (where X and Y are events) I mean: within the laws of nature as I know them Y wouldn’t have happened if X hadn’t. But God created the Universe outside (or “before”) any laws of nature, so what does “cause” mean?
… and I’ve got no idea what an Abrahamist theist would answer, since I’ve yet to hear one who could. Although of course I’d love to.
For homework: Play the same game, in your head (I assume your old religious self is still knocking around up there) or with a smart religious friend, on some of the other basic tenets of Abrahamism: God is all-powerful, God is all-knowing, God is (all-)good, God is formless. Similarly with any statement of the form “God loves X”, “God wants X”, or even “God did X” or “God said X” (how can the Cause of Everything be said to have “said” any statement more than any other?)
Intellectual Package Deals
Most religious doctrines are comprised of a huge number of logically independent statements. In Abrahamic theism, we have the various qualities of God mentioned above, as well as a bunch of moral axioms, beliefs regarding the afterlife, and so on. “Proofs” of the doctrines as a whole will often treat the whole collection as a unit, so they only need to bother proving a small fraction.
For instance: A proof of Judaism one of my teachers was fond of was based on proving the Revelation at Mt Sinai—God made a thundering announcement to six hundred thousand families, announcing Its existence and several commandments (there’s a dispute as to how many).
Okay, let’s say I accept the proof that the Revelation happened. This points to a very powerful speaker, but does it indicate that the speaker is all-powerful? That it is good? That it is telling the truth when it claims to be the being that brought us out of Egypt? That I am morally obligated to do what it wants?
For homework: Write down as many of the axioms of Christianity as you can think of. Once you have a list, look at the behaviour of practising Christians you know, and try to see if it actually follows from the axioms you’ve got. Add axioms and repeat. (I did this with a religious friend of mine about Orthodox Judaism, and we got to at least fifteen before we got bored.)
Query your memory, Google, your books, and whichever humans you feel comfortable for proofs of Christianity. Check off which of the axioms on your list they actually address—before you even bother to check the proofs for coherence.
X is not satisfactorily explained by modern science… therefore God/soul/etc.
(Including the specific cases where X=the existence of the universe, complex life, or consciousness.)
Aside from almost always falling under #2 (and sometimes #1 as well), arguments of this form are mathematically fallacious. To understand why, though, you have to do the maths. You can find it on this site as “Bayes’s Rule” and it’s well worth reading the full-length articles about it, but the short version is as follows:
We have two competing models, A and B, and an observation E. Then E will constitute evidence for A over B if and only if A predicts E with higher probability than B predicts E – that is, if I were to query an A-believer and a B-believer before I ran the experiment, the former would be more likely to get it right than than the latter.
This is easiest to see in cases where the models predict outcomes with very high or low probability. For example: If I ask a believer in Newtonian mechanics whether a rock will keep moving after I throw it (in a vacuum), he’ll say “yes” (probability 1). If I ask an Aristotelian physicist, he’ll say “no” (probability 0). And lo, the rock did keep moving. Therefore, the Newtonian assigned a higher probability to (what we now know is) the correct outcome than the Aristotelian, so this experiment is evidence for Newtonianism over Aristotelianism.
Got that? Then let’s take a specifically religious example: as far as I know, modern science does not have a good explanation for the origin of life. We have a vague idea, but our best explanation is based on some pretty astounding coincidences. Religion, on the other hand, has: God created life. There’s your explanation.
But translating into maths we get: if atheist science were true, the probability of life arising would be low, since it would take some unlikely coincidences. If theist science (normal laws of physics + God) were true, the probability of life arising would be...
Wait a second. What’s the probability of God deciding to create life? We might say we have no idea, since God is inscrutable, in which case the argument obviously can’t continue. But the clever apologist might say: God is good, which is to say It wants happiness. Therefore, it must create minds. So the probability of it creating life is actually quite high.
Except that God, being all-powerful, is perfectly capable of making happiness without life – a bunch of super-happy abstract beings like Itself, for example. So what’s the probability of It “bothering” to create life? It has no reason not too, having infinite time and energy, but It has an infinite number of courses of action – what’s the probability of It picking the specific one we observed happening?
I’m tempted to say that 1/(infinity) = 0, but that’s not mathematically sound, so we’ll leave it at “I don’t know”. Regardless, the point is that arguments of this form fail once you actually look for numbers.
This answer is already long enough to qualify as a post in itself, so I’ll leave off here (although there’s lots more to talk about). Feel free to ask if I wasn’t clear, or once you’ve finished all the exercises.