being a Slovenian student of physics from a very devout Catholic family (which I actually occasionally still accompany to Sunday mass) I can definitely relate to your story. I coped by sharing my doubts with less religious family members, eventually sharing with my sister that I considered myself atheist. I mostly let my extended family think what they will, but I don’t really work to hide my non-belief in any serious way any more. I don’t however try to argue with them about it. Mostly because de-converting my family members in a mostly secular country didn’t really feel like a top priority, but also because I saw it would be very hard to get them interested in rationality. And without that in my mostly secular country, it didn’t really seem worth it since I’ve come to realize that non-religious delusion is as widespread as religious delusion. I was for a time somewhat conflicted on this, but my general attitude since then is that I love my my family because they are my family not because I think they are good at rational debate or hold true beliefs. I think most parents feel the same way about their children.
I’d heartily recommend reading the sequences, since atheism is just the beginning. :)
Hey Lara,
being a Slovenian student of physics from a very devout Catholic family (which I actually occasionally still accompany to Sunday mass) I can definitely relate to your story. I coped by sharing my doubts with less religious family members, eventually sharing with my sister that I considered myself atheist. I mostly let my extended family think what they will, but I don’t really work to hide my non-belief in any serious way any more. I don’t however try to argue with them about it. Mostly because de-converting my family members in a mostly secular country didn’t really feel like a top priority, but also because I saw it would be very hard to get them interested in rationality. And without that in my mostly secular country, it didn’t really seem worth it since I’ve come to realize that non-religious delusion is as widespread as religious delusion. I was for a time somewhat conflicted on this, but my general attitude since then is that I love my my family because they are my family not because I think they are good at rational debate or hold true beliefs. I think most parents feel the same way about their children.
I’d heartily recommend reading the sequences, since atheism is just the beginning. :)
Best wishes, Konkvistador