I don’t know much about CBT for depression but it seems to me it is more about the connotations of thoughts, not their denotations. They work on defusing thoughts like “I can never do anything right” and the issue is not really whether its denotation is objectively true (btw not, but anyway) but how its connotation generates negative feelings. Perhaps, you could discuss with the therapists how to keep the denotations of some thoughts but express then in different words with way more positive connotations?
I don’t have too many of these thoughts. The closest one is probably “By all means, someone like me shouldn’t have much trouble finding a quality partner, therefore the only possibility left is that I’m a soulless alien who cannot connect to other people and this fact is obvious to everybody except me.” Of whose implausibility I’m fully aware, so I don’t really take it seriously.
I don’t know much about CBT for depression but it seems to me it is more about the connotations of thoughts, not their denotations. They work on defusing thoughts like “I can never do anything right” and the issue is not really whether its denotation is objectively true (btw not, but anyway) but how its connotation generates negative feelings. Perhaps, you could discuss with the therapists how to keep the denotations of some thoughts but express then in different words with way more positive connotations?
I don’t have too many of these thoughts. The closest one is probably “By all means, someone like me shouldn’t have much trouble finding a quality partner, therefore the only possibility left is that I’m a soulless alien who cannot connect to other people and this fact is obvious to everybody except me.” Of whose implausibility I’m fully aware, so I don’t really take it seriously.
But your rational part does understand it is mostly just number of approaches done multiplied by your looks, and everything else is secondary?