Yeah lol. Not only do our brains say “no fuck you, you don’t get to work on rockets” they say “fuck you, you don’t even get to not fall in love with this person who is probably terrible for you in lieu of someone more objectively compatible.” Hence the sky high marriage rate despite everyone knowing the divorce rate.
Not only do our brains say “no fuck you, you don’t get to work on rockets”
getting yourself to somewhere on this curve which is not the far left but also not too far to the right can be unbelievably productive. there’s a certain type of infatuation which drives one to show off their achievements, which in turn requires one to make achievements. building a rocket, and inventiveness in general, is a decently high status thing: you may experience a greater drive to actually do these things during a certain period of infatuation.
Yeah lol. Not only do our brains say “no fuck you, you don’t get to work on rockets” they say “fuck you, you don’t even get to not fall in love with this person who is probably terrible for you in lieu of someone more objectively compatible.” Hence the sky high marriage rate despite everyone knowing the divorce rate.
getting yourself to somewhere on this curve which is not the far left but also not too far to the right can be unbelievably productive. there’s a certain type of infatuation which drives one to show off their achievements, which in turn requires one to make achievements. building a rocket, and inventiveness in general, is a decently high status thing: you may experience a greater drive to actually do these things during a certain period of infatuation.
I do agree with this. Precarious, tho.
“you may experience a greater drive to actually do these things during a certain period of infatuation.”
If it’s not logistically incompatible with the real strong feelz, sure.
I will say that not everything which ends is a mistake, but that should not be taken to endorse having children—you’re already pregnant, aren’t you.