Somehow in saying myself “you can act on that later, if you still feel it is necessary” I take the edge off. Can someone relate to that and maybe help in clarifying?
I think I may know what you’re talking about. I find it immensely helpful to tell myself (when it’s true) “there is no hurry”, sometimes repeatedly. When there’s no hurry, I can double-check. When there’s no hurry, I can ask someone for help. When there’s no hurry, there’s no reason to panic. When there’s no hurry, I can put it down, come back to it later whenever I feel like it, and see if anything’s changed about how I want to react to it. So it’s more general than just anger, but perhaps the same class of thing.
I think I may know what you’re talking about. I find it immensely helpful to tell myself (when it’s true) “there is no hurry”, sometimes repeatedly. When there’s no hurry, I can double-check. When there’s no hurry, I can ask someone for help. When there’s no hurry, there’s no reason to panic. When there’s no hurry, I can put it down, come back to it later whenever I feel like it, and see if anything’s changed about how I want to react to it. So it’s more general than just anger, but perhaps the same class of thing.
Yes that’s what I mean, thank you.