If you’re getting mad when someone says something truthful about you, then this should raise other warning flags as well! Examine the issue carefully to figure out what’s really happening here.
When it comes to making the most beneficial responses feeling anger is almost never useful when you have a sufficient foundation in the mechanisms of social competition, regardless of truth. It tends to show weakness—the vulnerability to provocation that you are speaking of gives an opportunity for one upmanship that social rivals will instinctively hone in on.
In terms of the benefits and necessity of making a response it is the connotations that are important. Technical truth is secondary.
I didn’t mean to suggest that the truth/falsehood line was as usefully socially as I believe it is internally. The social reaction you may decide on is mostly independent from truth.
Internally, it’s important to recognize that truth, since it is vital feedback that can tell you when you may need to change.
Internally, it’s important to recognize that truth, since it is vital feedback that can tell you when you may need to change.
And, when false, when you may need to change what you do such that others don’t get that impression (or don’t think they can get away with making the public claim even though they know it is false).
When it comes to making the most beneficial responses feeling anger is almost never useful when you have a sufficient foundation in the mechanisms of social competition, regardless of truth. It tends to show weakness—the vulnerability to provocation that you are speaking of gives an opportunity for one upmanship that social rivals will instinctively hone in on.
In terms of the benefits and necessity of making a response it is the connotations that are important. Technical truth is secondary.
Very true.
I didn’t mean to suggest that the truth/falsehood line was as usefully socially as I believe it is internally. The social reaction you may decide on is mostly independent from truth.
Internally, it’s important to recognize that truth, since it is vital feedback that can tell you when you may need to change.
Edit—please disregard this post
And, when false, when you may need to change what you do such that others don’t get that impression (or don’t think they can get away with making the public claim even though they know it is false).