I’m not sure this is actually the best way to relate to conversations, but I do think at least tracking how much proportion of the conversation you’re speaking is important so you can make some kind of deliberate choice about it.
I think there are some situations where it is better to either follow an exciting conversation thread, or withdraw more fully.
I think in practice this doesn’t mean (usually) taking up more than 50% of a conversation time – if an exciting conversation thread is happening, there’s usually at least two participants talking, and it’s good to notice when you’re not actually having a conversation, you’re just monologuing,
I’m not sure this is actually the best way to relate to conversations, but I do think at least tracking how much proportion of the conversation you’re speaking is important so you can make some kind of deliberate choice about it.
I think there are some situations where it is better to either follow an exciting conversation thread, or withdraw more fully.
I think in practice this doesn’t mean (usually) taking up more than 50% of a conversation time – if an exciting conversation thread is happening, there’s usually at least two participants talking, and it’s good to notice when you’re not actually having a conversation, you’re just monologuing,