Depends. If you’re talking about normal social functioning, sure, this is wildly sub-optimal unless you hang out mostly with debate heads or others who put a high value on quick wit, and superior argumentation skills. In any problem solving or intellectual arena it is an awesome technique, but yeah, outside of a pretty narrow group if you act like that normally it’ll go down like a lead balloon. But presumably as one familiar with the Art of Charm guys you know that most social interaction is grooming/bullshitting/vibing where the noises you make with your mouth are important more for the way they’re said than for their informational content.
On the ex-gf thing, tell them if they have a problem, say it immediately or you’ll assume it doesn’t matter. Repeat this policy whenever such stuff comes up. Works for me.
Depends. If you’re talking about normal social functioning, sure, this is wildly sub-optimal unless you hang out mostly with debate heads or others who put a high value on quick wit, and superior argumentation skills. In any problem solving or intellectual arena it is an awesome technique, but yeah, outside of a pretty narrow group if you act like that normally it’ll go down like a lead balloon. But presumably as one familiar with the Art of Charm guys you know that most social interaction is grooming/bullshitting/vibing where the noises you make with your mouth are important more for the way they’re said than for their informational content.
On the ex-gf thing, tell them if they have a problem, say it immediately or you’ll assume it doesn’t matter. Repeat this policy whenever such stuff comes up. Works for me.