This is often my problem—I think “I could probably do it if I really wanted to” and “I’m not doing it”, and conclude “Therefore I don’t really want to do it (strongly enough).”
Have you tried this technique, “if it was easier/less resource demanding to do it, would I be more inclined to do it?”—if so does the answer change much?
Sometimes the answer is “absolutely yes.” For example, I’d love to be able to understand Japanese, but I’m not about to dedicate a year or more of my life to studying the language in order to do it. (As I’ve mentioned before, learning foreign language vocabulary is relatively difficult for me, because there’s no way to use partial knowledge to recover something you can’t quite remember; knowing that “azul” means “blue” and “rojo” means red doesn’t help me remember that “verde” means green. I have to resort to brute force memorization, and I hate it.)
Another thing that I might like to do but I’m not sure is worth trying is making my own game using something like RPG Maker. I imagine that it would take a year or more to go from where I am to a working game I’d be satisfied with, and I don’t know if it would “pay off”—even if I did make a really amazing game, how many people would ever play it?
Perhaps I am misreading you original comment but is your issue not about formulating goals—as the examples with Japanese and something like RPG Maker suggest you can and could even be motivated if conditions were different. But lies with formulating viable or likely-to-succeed goals?
In the short run, I have my hands full with keeping up with household chores, walking my dog, and visiting and being an advocate for my severely ill wife, who has been in hospitals almost continuously since December 2022. I don’t have a job (besides taking care of my family’s rental property) and don’t think I could handle one right now.
Most of the actual goals I manage to set for myself and achieve involve playing video games. :/
This is some unsolicited commentary but it does sounds like you have your priorities straight already.
Its sad to hear you’re so consumed by responsibilities and set backs. At least you have control in the video games right? I wish the best for you and your wife.
This is often my problem—I think “I could probably do it if I really wanted to” and “I’m not doing it”, and conclude “Therefore I don’t really want to do it (strongly enough).”
Have you tried this technique, “if it was easier/less resource demanding to do it, would I be more inclined to do it?”—if so does the answer change much?
Sometimes the answer is “absolutely yes.” For example, I’d love to be able to understand Japanese, but I’m not about to dedicate a year or more of my life to studying the language in order to do it. (As I’ve mentioned before, learning foreign language vocabulary is relatively difficult for me, because there’s no way to use partial knowledge to recover something you can’t quite remember; knowing that “azul” means “blue” and “rojo” means red doesn’t help me remember that “verde” means green. I have to resort to brute force memorization, and I hate it.)
Another thing that I might like to do but I’m not sure is worth trying is making my own game using something like RPG Maker. I imagine that it would take a year or more to go from where I am to a working game I’d be satisfied with, and I don’t know if it would “pay off”—even if I did make a really amazing game, how many people would ever play it?
Perhaps I am misreading you original comment but is your issue not about formulating goals—as the examples with Japanese and something like RPG Maker suggest you can and could even be motivated if conditions were different. But lies with formulating viable or likely-to-succeed goals?
In the short run, I have my hands full with keeping up with household chores, walking my dog, and visiting and being an advocate for my severely ill wife, who has been in hospitals almost continuously since December 2022. I don’t have a job (besides taking care of my family’s rental property) and don’t think I could handle one right now.
Most of the actual goals I manage to set for myself and achieve involve playing video games. :/
This is some unsolicited commentary but it does sounds like you have your priorities straight already.
Its sad to hear you’re so consumed by responsibilities and set backs. At least you have control in the video games right? I wish the best for you and your wife.