This is probably the best relationship advice I’ve ever got, as far as a can remember. But there are a few general obstacles that need to be addressed before I’m actually able to widely applying a strategy.
Motivation: Of course other things go into motivation but I think that expectancy of success and cost failure (rejection) are the biggest hurdles for a lot of people (including me).
Feedback: Sometimes it’s not so easy to really know if a person is interested in you or whether one particular strategy working or not. You could ask but “asking” about peoples reactions can sometimes (in my experience) be intrepid as a way of saying that your VERY interested in that person.
I don’t know if I make ANY sense but again thanks for your advice, I will try to apply it. I could get back to you if I strike gold(?).
You might want to think of asking people out as asking for the option of developing and acting on mutual interest, rather than saying “Let’s suck face now”.
The cost of rejection is usually extremely low. You feel slightly awkward and disappointed for a few minutes, then go back to acting less flirty than the average Victorian priest.
I’m bad at reading people, but if you’re just asking “Are they at all interested?”, asking them out is the way to go. And if you get a “yes” to that, it creates a situation where it’s acceptable to test more or less directly how interested they are.
This is probably the best relationship advice I’ve ever got, as far as a can remember. But there are a few general obstacles that need to be addressed before I’m actually able to widely applying a strategy.
Motivation: Of course other things go into motivation but I think that expectancy of success and cost failure (rejection) are the biggest hurdles for a lot of people (including me).
Feedback: Sometimes it’s not so easy to really know if a person is interested in you or whether one particular strategy working or not. You could ask but “asking” about peoples reactions can sometimes (in my experience) be intrepid as a way of saying that your VERY interested in that person.
I don’t know if I make ANY sense but again thanks for your advice, I will try to apply it. I could get back to you if I strike gold(?).
You might want to think of asking people out as asking for the option of developing and acting on mutual interest, rather than saying “Let’s suck face now”.
The cost of rejection is usually extremely low. You feel slightly awkward and disappointed for a few minutes, then go back to acting less flirty than the average Victorian priest.
I’m bad at reading people, but if you’re just asking “Are they at all interested?”, asking them out is the way to go. And if you get a “yes” to that, it creates a situation where it’s acceptable to test more or less directly how interested they are.