Therefore, just as to understand and be successful in your own decision you must be aware of your biases and cognitive quirks, to successfully interact with others you must be aware of theirs. Most biases are shared across the human population, but sexual partner preferences are obviously not. Also, elephants can’t be reasoned with: you correct elephant biases by tricking the elephant. You don’t adjust well for the priming effect by trying to out-reason your instincts. You adjust for the priming effect by making sure you’re primed correctly for achieving your aims.
It’s important therefore to distinguish between tricking the elephant and tricking the rider. Tricking the rider is usually considered unethical, but tricking the elephant can be a case of correcting someone else’s biases for them: the wife thinks (rider, or attachment part of elephant + rationalisation) she should be attracted to the husband, after all she married him, but she (attraction part of elephant) isn’t. There are two ways of resolving that: one the rider decides to leave, or two the husband makes himself more attractive to the elephant.
Beisutsukai unlock Option III at level 25: Get the rider to look down and see the elephant, craft reins for the elephant, and cooperate to steer the elephant.
Also, at level 45, they unlock the legendary Option IV (both riders must have this ability to use successfully): Both riders perform a combo-takedown on the elephants and develop low-maintenance long-term elephant-control plans that guarantees self-perpetuating elephant attraction and automatic steering (e.g. by training the elephants to follow the road/eachother on their own without further direction).
Incidentally, all Beisutsukai unlock Option 0 at level 5: Find a mate that already knows how to ride the elephant in the first place.
I have an elephant riding strategy, it involves throwing rocks at the environment and surrounding elephants to entice/scare it into going the right way. It’s kinda hard work, but elephants don’t really do reins… (How do people actually steer elephants, out of interest?)
(How do people actually steer elephants, out of interest?)
Two methods are anchoring and positive reinforcement. Availability control is also usually very effective. Essentially, the same stuff as for behavior/habit training works best, since as per my best model you’re essentially training a psychological/biological behavior there too. That’s more for “training” elephants though. Direct, in-the-moment steering requires actually training the elephant to respond to steering by whatever reins you craft, in the first place, otherwise it’s very hard and sketchy (and usually, as you say, involves throwing rocks).
I forgot where, but I recall reading a study that concluded that making one kind of sexual stimulus more “present” and reducing the availability/presence of other stimuli would increase the natural response of men to that stimulus later on (with long-term effects) in those subjects. I’m not sure of the specifics anymore, but for “sexual stimulus” think “pictures of mostly-naked ladies in X”, for X being wearing a specific item of clothing, fetish setup, or particular situation/setting.
Most studies I’ve found regarding such things seem to be crafted exclusively around men, so it’s pretty hard to find good “official” scientific data for women in that regard. Most of the data apparently comes from PUA material, unfortunately.
Translation into usual Less Wrong language:
Men and women all have elephants and riders. While female riders are not intrinsically different from male riders, female elephants have lots of differences to male elephants, which is expected if the elephant is the animal hardware/operating system that we are run on.
Therefore, just as to understand and be successful in your own decision you must be aware of your biases and cognitive quirks, to successfully interact with others you must be aware of theirs. Most biases are shared across the human population, but sexual partner preferences are obviously not. Also, elephants can’t be reasoned with: you correct elephant biases by tricking the elephant. You don’t adjust well for the priming effect by trying to out-reason your instincts. You adjust for the priming effect by making sure you’re primed correctly for achieving your aims.
It’s important therefore to distinguish between tricking the elephant and tricking the rider. Tricking the rider is usually considered unethical, but tricking the elephant can be a case of correcting someone else’s biases for them: the wife thinks (rider, or attachment part of elephant + rationalisation) she should be attracted to the husband, after all she married him, but she (attraction part of elephant) isn’t. There are two ways of resolving that: one the rider decides to leave, or two the husband makes himself more attractive to the elephant.
My wife really didn’t appreciate this when I explained it to her. Can’t work out what went wrong in that conversation...
Beisutsukai unlock Option III at level 25: Get the rider to look down and see the elephant, craft reins for the elephant, and cooperate to steer the elephant.
Also, at level 45, they unlock the legendary Option IV (both riders must have this ability to use successfully): Both riders perform a combo-takedown on the elephants and develop low-maintenance long-term elephant-control plans that guarantees self-perpetuating elephant attraction and automatic steering (e.g. by training the elephants to follow the road/eachother on their own without further direction).
Incidentally, all Beisutsukai unlock Option 0 at level 5: Find a mate that already knows how to ride the elephant in the first place.
I have an elephant riding strategy, it involves throwing rocks at the environment and surrounding elephants to entice/scare it into going the right way. It’s kinda hard work, but elephants don’t really do reins… (How do people actually steer elephants, out of interest?)
Two methods are anchoring and positive reinforcement. Availability control is also usually very effective. Essentially, the same stuff as for behavior/habit training works best, since as per my best model you’re essentially training a psychological/biological behavior there too. That’s more for “training” elephants though. Direct, in-the-moment steering requires actually training the elephant to respond to steering by whatever reins you craft, in the first place, otherwise it’s very hard and sketchy (and usually, as you say, involves throwing rocks).
I forgot where, but I recall reading a study that concluded that making one kind of sexual stimulus more “present” and reducing the availability/presence of other stimuli would increase the natural response of men to that stimulus later on (with long-term effects) in those subjects. I’m not sure of the specifics anymore, but for “sexual stimulus” think “pictures of mostly-naked ladies in X”, for X being wearing a specific item of clothing, fetish setup, or particular situation/setting.
Most studies I’ve found regarding such things seem to be crafted exclusively around men, so it’s pretty hard to find good “official” scientific data for women in that regard. Most of the data apparently comes from PUA material, unfortunately.