and it might turn out that in some cases women are happier if they are communicated with honestly, treated as equal partners in a relationship, given signals that they are high-status in the form of compliments and “romantic” gestures and so forth
If they see this behavior from a stranger, they hate it like a bad smell. Yuck.
If they see a lot of this in a relationship, they begin to lose attration for him, and in the end hate him and cheat on him.
By the way, have you studied game theory? A man who always gives you treats and compliments is signalling his own low value, therefore his treats and compliments are devalued. Yes?
My personal belief is that female utility is maximized by a man who is alpha, who leads them rather than treating them as an equal, who keeps them “on their toes” by flirting with other chicks, but who occasionally surprises them with a big romantic gesture like a surprise weekend break, champagne on ice, hot sex in the penthouse suite. But he doesn’t do it all the time, his rewards are unpredictable. This is in line with what game theory would predict.
This is in line with what game theory would predict.
Perhaps the reason you’re being downvoted is because you’re confusing game theory with behaviorism. Variable reinforcement schedules, and all that.
Also, I expect if you phrased the last part of your comment, say, as:
“People enjoy a little variety and unpredictability from their partners, and generally prefer not to have to come up with all the ideas for what to do.”
It’d be less likely to be perceived as some sort of chauvinism. That statement, as it happens is true of both men and women.
(Likewise, the first part of your comment describes things that men do in response to women’s behavior, despite your writing it as if it were unique to women’s response to men.)
If they see this behavior from a stranger, they hate it like a bad smell. Yuck.
If they see a lot of this in a relationship, they begin to lose attration for him, and in the end hate him and cheat on him.
By the way, have you studied game theory? A man who always gives you treats and compliments is signalling his own low value, therefore his treats and compliments are devalued. Yes?
My personal belief is that female utility is maximized by a man who is alpha, who leads them rather than treating them as an equal, who keeps them “on their toes” by flirting with other chicks, but who occasionally surprises them with a big romantic gesture like a surprise weekend break, champagne on ice, hot sex in the penthouse suite. But he doesn’t do it all the time, his rewards are unpredictable. This is in line with what game theory would predict.
Note that “utility” is not the same thing as “sexual pleasure”.
Perhaps the reason you’re being downvoted is because you’re confusing game theory with behaviorism. Variable reinforcement schedules, and all that.
Also, I expect if you phrased the last part of your comment, say, as:
“People enjoy a little variety and unpredictability from their partners, and generally prefer not to have to come up with all the ideas for what to do.”
It’d be less likely to be perceived as some sort of chauvinism. That statement, as it happens is true of both men and women.
(Likewise, the first part of your comment describes things that men do in response to women’s behavior, despite your writing it as if it were unique to women’s response to men.)