I have a very hard time imagining this working. … I can’t see why this would be rewarded with sex.
And yet it happens. People get pressured into sex.
There are more things in heaven and earth than are dreamt of in your philosophy. If you missed this, you should become less confident in your ability to make accurate judgments in this arena.
I am simply saying its not a good tactic in the context of situations that PUA usually focuses on.
Note that pressure =/= nagging. For it to be pressure you need to have some social or physical leverage over the other person. Nagging dosen’t imply you have either and in their absence the word brings up associations of begging. It is hard to gain great leverage on people of high social status.
nagging too much will make people so desperate to be left alone they may well agree to sex
I have a very hard time imagining this working… I can’t see why this would be rewarded with sex. Sex with a woman might happen in spite of nagging, not because of it.
You also talked about PUA, but the above is a simple claim of fact which is incorrect.
persevering (necessary to pass simple shit-tests, but nagging too much will make people so desperate to be left alone they may well agree to sex)
This was given as a better example of a potential PUA tactic that could be unethical. I was implicitly taking and critiquing the course of action as a tactic a PUA would or would not adopt based on how effective or ineffective it was. I thought it obvious, but looking back I see I should have made an explicit mention of PUA in the comment.
I think the point here isn’t that people don’t get pressured into sex but rather that the specific strategy mentioned isn’t one that PUAs would use because it is both pathetic and a highly ineffective strategy for them to be using. So if a completely amoral PUA was using unethical tactics to get laid he would still not use this one because he wouldn’t expect this one to work.
nagging too much will make people so desperate to be left alone they may well agree to sex
I have a very hard time imagining this working… I can’t see why this would be rewarded with sex. Sex with a woman might happen in spite of nagging, not because of it.
This is NOT me saying “evil PUAs do this”, it’s “orthogonal to your points about PUA, you have made a simple factual claim backed by personal incredulity which is, in fact, false”.
I think you need to give us the definition of PUA you are using, because you seem to be using one that excludes a lot of actions or strategies which one might think would be advantageous to a person who wants to get laid, and unethical persons who want to get laid seem highly likely to be a subgroup of people perusing and participating in a hypothetical discussion of PUA that tabooed all ethical criticism.
And yet it happens. People get pressured into sex.
There are more things in heaven and earth than are dreamt of in your philosophy. If you missed this, you should become less confident in your ability to make accurate judgments in this arena.
Obviously pressured sex happens.
I am simply saying its not a good tactic in the context of situations that PUA usually focuses on.
Note that pressure =/= nagging. For it to be pressure you need to have some social or physical leverage over the other person. Nagging dosen’t imply you have either and in their absence the word brings up associations of begging. It is hard to gain great leverage on people of high social status.
My point was not about PUA. You said:
You also talked about PUA, but the above is a simple claim of fact which is incorrect.
The post was a response to:
This was given as a better example of a potential PUA tactic that could be unethical. I was implicitly taking and critiquing the course of action as a tactic a PUA would or would not adopt based on how effective or ineffective it was. I thought it obvious, but looking back I see I should have made an explicit mention of PUA in the comment.
I think the point here isn’t that people don’t get pressured into sex but rather that the specific strategy mentioned isn’t one that PUAs would use because it is both pathetic and a highly ineffective strategy for them to be using. So if a completely amoral PUA was using unethical tactics to get laid he would still not use this one because he wouldn’t expect this one to work.
Well, sure. I was taking issue specifically with Konkvistador’s post, above, and the claim:
This is NOT me saying “evil PUAs do this”, it’s “orthogonal to your points about PUA, you have made a simple factual claim backed by personal incredulity which is, in fact, false”.
I think you need to give us the definition of PUA you are using, because you seem to be using one that excludes a lot of actions or strategies which one might think would be advantageous to a person who wants to get laid, and unethical persons who want to get laid seem highly likely to be a subgroup of people perusing and participating in a hypothetical discussion of PUA that tabooed all ethical criticism.