I seem to have a tendency to feel extremely inadequate about any skill at which i am not noticeably better than everyone I know about.
I believe that this is a serious problem in itself. It’s probably undercutting your quality of life in many ways,
In particular, it’s probably on your mind when you’re in relationships, distracting you from what’s actually going on between you and the other person.
Cognitive behavioral therapy might help. It goes into detail about undercutting that sort of belief.
More generally, I believe that the crucial thing is to believe that it’s safe to be on your own side. Getting to that belief can be amazingly difficult (believing that you shouldn’t be on your own side is probably the result of gut-level fear from repeated attacks), but it’s worth the trouble.
By “annoyance” I assume you mean you still have the feeling but work around it?
In that case, it may be a problem in ways you’re not aware of. Other people, prospective mates especially, can pick up on that feeling in tricky subtle ways and react to it.
I believe that this is a serious problem in itself. It’s probably undercutting your quality of life in many ways,
In particular, it’s probably on your mind when you’re in relationships, distracting you from what’s actually going on between you and the other person.
Cognitive behavioral therapy might help. It goes into detail about undercutting that sort of belief.
More generally, I believe that the crucial thing is to believe that it’s safe to be on your own side. Getting to that belief can be amazingly difficult (believing that you shouldn’t be on your own side is probably the result of gut-level fear from repeated attacks), but it’s worth the trouble.
I only mentioned that to explain the origin of a false belief. It is not currently a problem for me, just an annoyance.
By “annoyance” I assume you mean you still have the feeling but work around it?
In that case, it may be a problem in ways you’re not aware of. Other people, prospective mates especially, can pick up on that feeling in tricky subtle ways and react to it.
Ok—sorry for unneccesary advice.