Inspired by this article on rejection sensitivity I have realised that: All things are a state of meaning (which can be reinterpreted), state of body (which can be moved) and a state of challenge (from which there can be growth). When you keep that mantra in mind, literally no bad thing can harm your well-being, so long as you remain in a state of reason. I think the most powerful one is meaning. You can consciously choose to reintrepet something to have a positive meaning rather than a negative meaning. That’s the greatest gift of rationality.
Rejection is state of meaning. It’s true, you can be denied by a person or a situation. But, you decide what rejection means to you, by the way you explain the situation to yourself. Many of you tell me that you are “destroyed” and “can’t go on living” because your affection was unreturned or you didn’t get into the school or job of choice. When you assign life and death meaning to being refused, you have nowhere to go but broken and down. You’ve hemmed yourself into a trap by meanings that uproot you completely. Here, I’m talking less about being falsely happy or positive and more about changing the way that you speak about a situation, by the meaning you assign to it. You will be able to handle rejection, when you start to describe it in ways that don’t destroy your self-esteem. Turn a statement like, “I am destroyed and can’t go on living” into “I’m hurting, but not broken or down”. Your whole demeanor changes just by the meaning you give to the experience. Test it out for yourself.
Also, gentle reminder about the empowering effects of power posing and an additional one: smiling!
Inspired by this article on rejection sensitivity I have realised that: All things are a state of meaning (which can be reinterpreted), state of body (which can be moved) and a state of challenge (from which there can be growth). When you keep that mantra in mind, literally no bad thing can harm your well-being, so long as you remain in a state of reason. I think the most powerful one is meaning. You can consciously choose to reintrepet something to have a positive meaning rather than a negative meaning. That’s the greatest gift of rationality.
Also, gentle reminder about the empowering effects of power posing and an additional one: smiling!