Are there exceptions in terms of your first root reaction, or just in terms of your eventual net reaction? I work to consciously reward people for accurately criticizing me, and to consciously reduce the inaccurate negative feelings I form about those who criticize me. But there are major recent gaps in my performance here, and while I’m improving by increasing my awareness of the distortions I generate and of the “outside view” probabilities involved, I don’t expect to soon remove the root response.
If anyone has good strategies for dealing well with criticism, I’m interested.
Depends on what I believe about the person criticizing me. On average you’d probably win the bet, but there are exceptions.
Are there exceptions in terms of your first root reaction, or just in terms of your eventual net reaction? I work to consciously reward people for accurately criticizing me, and to consciously reduce the inaccurate negative feelings I form about those who criticize me. But there are major recent gaps in my performance here, and while I’m improving by increasing my awareness of the distortions I generate and of the “outside view” probabilities involved, I don’t expect to soon remove the root response.
If anyone has good strategies for dealing well with criticism, I’m interested.