People self reported money and jobs as more important than health
Quite a few times we asked impoverished people what they most desired or what they thought would improve their happiness most. The most common answer we got was the desire for employment or a better job. People’s happiness seemed to vary a lot depending on their job and it also came up a lot in general conversations. The second and third most common things we heard were money and food. We almost never heard about health issues or loss of family members due to health concerns.
This week a friend challenged my appreciation for the Hindu caste system alleging that lower caste people are servile. They may literally be servants in some cases, but they servile treatment, subsistence payment or slavery are incompatible with Hindu scripture (Sections IV.1 through IV.6, Manusmriti) which explitly disapproves of that means of survival for those those in what approximates the ‘working stage’ of one’s life in English: ‘Shvavritti’ which means doglike subsistence, servitude or slavery. Others have probably explained this better elsewhere but I haven’t checked.
Even then, the system is opt-out. Anyone can become a renunciate who are beyond caste.
He also raised the tension between moksha and ideals of liberation, and the explicit moral values of pleasure and wealth that are also Hindu cannon. Wikipedia resolves this succintly:
Other Indian texts state the same answer to tension between “pursue wealth and love” versus “renounce everything” Purusarthas, but using different words. Isa Upanishad, for example, states “act and enjoy with renunciation, do not covet”
His final point wasn’t a criticism, but the assertion that there is a unity between all religions. Religion is generally faith based, but Hinduism is not. Wikipedia again:
Vivekachudamani, which literally means ‘Crown Jewel of Discriminatory Reasoning’, is a book devoted to moksa in Vedanta philosophy. It explains what behaviors and pursuits lead to moksha, as well what actions and assumptions hinder moksha. The four essential conditions, according to Vivekachudamani, before one can commence on the path of moksha include (1) vivekah (discrimination, critical reasoning) between everlasting principles and fleeting world; (2) viragah (indifference, lack of craving) for material rewards; (3) samah (calmness of mind), and (4) damah (self restraint, temperance). The Brahmasutrabhasya adds to the above four requirements, the following: uparati (lack of bias, dispassion), titiksa (endurance, patience), sraddha (faith) and samadhana (intentness, commitment).
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The value and appeal of the Mahabharata is not as much in its complex and rushed presentation of metaphysics in the 12th book, claims Ingall, because Indian metaphysics is more eloquently presented in other Sanskrit scriptures; the appeal of Mahabharata, like Ramayana, is in its presentation of a series of moral problems and life situations, to which there are usually three answers given, according to Ingall: one answer is of Bhima, which is the answer of brute force, an individual angle representing materialism, egoism, and self; the second answer is of Yudhishthira, which is always an appeal to piety and gods, of social virtue and of tradition; the third answer is of introspective Arjuna, which falls between the two extremes, and who, claims Ingall, symbolically reveals the finest moral qualities of man. The Epics of Hinduism are a symbolic treatise about life, virtues, customs, morals, ethics, law, and other aspects of Dharma.[49] There is extensive discussion of Dharma at the individual level in the Epics of Hinduism, observes Ingall; for example, on free will versus destiny, when and why human beings believe in either, ultimately concluding that the strong and prosperous naturally uphold free will, while those facing grief or frustration naturally lean towards destiny. The Epics of Hinduism illustrate various aspects of Dharma, they are a means of communicating Dharma with metaphors.
2. Update on my love/sex life
She asked me why I don’t have a girlfriend and other such questions. I reciprocated and she answered very candidly. I could even ask her if she had ever cheated on anyone, eventually, and she said yes. She asked me many a time if I am shy, and why I am shy, and if I am shy with her, and eventually I just took the hint and brought her closer as we sat at the banks of the river. When we walked away we walked hand in hand. The next night I escalated to asking her if she wanted to kiss me. She said I don’t know, or something like that. I said, ‘I want to kiss you’ to which she said ‘then do it’ and I did, many a time after that. One time I said I want to make a porno jokingly, after the context was raised, and she said then make one with your roommate (she is my roommate too). But, I am still shy to take that hint, but another time I did get to rub her torso after to started rubbing my … pant area. I asked her what she likes about me and she only said my skin colour and my teeth :/ Okay enough back story.
I wanted to recommend she applied for graphic design and video editing work which she is talented in, since she isn’t sure what she can do career-wise, but now it’s too late. I wanted to watch I, origins with her since it reflects our story. But now it’s too late. I wanted to watch her favourite movie: ‘one day’ with her, which also reflects our story, but not it’s too late. I wanted to hand write her a letter, but now it’s too late. I wanted to suprise her after or during work, but now it’s too late. I want to share with her 6⁄7 major secrets (the 7th being my passwords...), to show her how looked as a kit, and to ‘dine at the y’ but not it’s too late. She pushed away when I sent her a goodmorning text, with a love heart at the end. I think she just wanted a casual hookup. At least I stopped jerking off :) Lately I felt undeserving of the experience. This cheered me up.
My social worker tells me that it’s not so much the negative in this situation (since it’s better than nothing, and previously) but the uncertainty that is stressful. Now having accepted that, I feel much better.
I’d guess that some otherwise inexplicable acts of gregarious violence can be explained by individual-social misalignment in terms of honour vs dignity culture
Do you have behavioural/competency based question preprepared answersl
How I have been rationalising a lack of social esteem:
“Many of the bravest never are known, and get no praise. That does not lessen their beauty, though perhaps it makes them harder, for we all like sympathy,” and Dr. Alec sighed a patient sort of sigh.
If you are interested in ISKON, search up ritvikism
Not long after I met her she said I was childish so I started acting less playful, not she says I’m like a teenagerl. I don’t get it. What’s up with this?
As a lecturer recently said:
take comments in the spiritu of helpfulness
Other things I want to adapt to now:
recognise motive attribution asymmetry
Other action steps: Tell her I just want to have fun, play around, have xxx or something like that. It could be a god consolation prize. On the other hand, she said she would only have sex with a boyfriend early on. But, maybe I can still DATY or ‘just the tip’ which are opportunities I value highly since they ‘can’t be bought’, at least safely or inexpensively that is...
Also I’ve forgotten that relationship based goals are destructive cause they assume we can control another person. So, vanquished!
I moved close to the city because research says that distance from work is one of the highest determinants of happiness, but I don’t feel THAT much happier because of that, once accounting for other reasons I’m happy after the move. So now, I’m gonna hold off on making an income goal of 40,000 dollars a year after all monetary goals and minding doesn’t make us happier.
5. Personality disorder recovery log
Right now my mental health diagnosis is personality disorder not otherwhere specified which basically means I relate to people in abnormal ways but clinicians aren’t sure how to label it. This section is for insights that seem useful to me, and that I would appreciate comment on. I seem to have depressive cognition like depressive personality disorder, self defeating (masochistic) traits, avoidant, borderline traits and narcissistic traits—not very proud of all that...well maybe a little ;) Clinicians tend to believe that it’s more a cluster B personality disorder though.
Don’t let others create meaning for you. Decide what meaning they will have for you
If somone scowls at you maybe they’re not scowling at somethng about you just maybe having a bad day
Learn healthy anger
Idealisation causes high expectation causes not enough individual responsibility on my part in a relationship
I assume people are ‘fragile’ and can’t handle things like accusations and anger and emotionally charged conversations, like me...falsely
I’ve been recommended for cognitive analytic therapy and psychodynamic therapy—more so the latter.
Even then, the system is opt-out. Anyone can become a renunciate who are beyond caste.
Can you give me a source for this? I’ve never heard of anyone renouncing their caste, and I have heard about many instances of lower-caste people lying about their caste, and I can’t reconcile the two.
Every sanyasi is beyond caste. You can ask them, it’s an oral tradition more than a written tradition. People lie that they are lower caste too for affirmative action.
I wanted to recommend she applied for graphic design and video editing work which she is talented in, since she isn’t sure what she can do career-wise, but now it’s too late. I wanted to watch I, origins with her since it reflects our story. But now it’s too late. I wanted to watch her favourite movie: ‘one day’ with her, which also reflects our story, but not it’s too late. I wanted to hand write her a letter, but now it’s too late. I wanted to suprise her after or during work, but now it’s too late. I want to share with her 6⁄7 major secrets (the 7th being my passwords...), to show her how looked as a kit, and to ‘dine at the y’ but not it’s too late. She pushed away when I sent her a goodmorning text, with a love heart at the end.
1. Validity of altruism
-Charity entrepreneurship
2. Challenging popular criticisms of Hinduism
This week a friend challenged my appreciation for the Hindu caste system alleging that lower caste people are servile. They may literally be servants in some cases, but they servile treatment, subsistence payment or slavery are incompatible with Hindu scripture (Sections IV.1 through IV.6, Manusmriti) which explitly disapproves of that means of survival for those those in what approximates the ‘working stage’ of one’s life in English: ‘Shvavritti’ which means doglike subsistence, servitude or slavery. Others have probably explained this better elsewhere but I haven’t checked.
Even then, the system is opt-out. Anyone can become a renunciate who are beyond caste.
He also raised the tension between moksha and ideals of liberation, and the explicit moral values of pleasure and wealth that are also Hindu cannon. Wikipedia resolves this succintly:
His final point wasn’t a criticism, but the assertion that there is a unity between all religions. Religion is generally faith based, but Hinduism is not. Wikipedia again:
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2. Update on my love/sex life
She asked me why I don’t have a girlfriend and other such questions. I reciprocated and she answered very candidly. I could even ask her if she had ever cheated on anyone, eventually, and she said yes. She asked me many a time if I am shy, and why I am shy, and if I am shy with her, and eventually I just took the hint and brought her closer as we sat at the banks of the river. When we walked away we walked hand in hand. The next night I escalated to asking her if she wanted to kiss me. She said I don’t know, or something like that. I said, ‘I want to kiss you’ to which she said ‘then do it’ and I did, many a time after that. One time I said I want to make a porno jokingly, after the context was raised, and she said then make one with your roommate (she is my roommate too). But, I am still shy to take that hint, but another time I did get to rub her torso after to started rubbing my … pant area. I asked her what she likes about me and she only said my skin colour and my teeth :/ Okay enough back story.
I wanted to recommend she applied for graphic design and video editing work which she is talented in, since she isn’t sure what she can do career-wise, but now it’s too late. I wanted to watch I, origins with her since it reflects our story. But now it’s too late. I wanted to watch her favourite movie: ‘one day’ with her, which also reflects our story, but not it’s too late. I wanted to hand write her a letter, but now it’s too late. I wanted to suprise her after or during work, but now it’s too late. I want to share with her 6⁄7 major secrets (the 7th being my passwords...), to show her how looked as a kit, and to ‘dine at the y’ but not it’s too late. She pushed away when I sent her a goodmorning text, with a love heart at the end. I think she just wanted a casual hookup. At least I stopped jerking off :) Lately I felt undeserving of the experience. This cheered me up.
My social worker tells me that it’s not so much the negative in this situation (since it’s better than nothing, and previously) but the uncertainty that is stressful. Now having accepted that, I feel much better.
4. misc
‘Get it together you pussy’
I’d guess that some otherwise inexplicable acts of gregarious violence can be explained by individual-social misalignment in terms of honour vs dignity culture
Do you have behavioural/competency based question preprepared answersl
A reference class databse would help would [reference class forecasting](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reference_class_forecasting. Any expedient options?
How I have been rationalising a lack of social esteem:
If you are interested in ISKON, search up ritvikism
Not long after I met her she said I was childish so I started acting less playful, not she says I’m like a teenagerl. I don’t get it. What’s up with this?
As a lecturer recently said:
take comments in the spiritu of helpfulness
Other things I want to adapt to now:
recognise motive attribution asymmetry
Other action steps: Tell her I just want to have fun, play around, have xxx or something like that. It could be a god consolation prize. On the other hand, she said she would only have sex with a boyfriend early on. But, maybe I can still DATY or ‘just the tip’ which are opportunities I value highly since they ‘can’t be bought’, at least safely or inexpensively that is...
Also I’ve forgotten that relationship based goals are destructive cause they assume we can control another person. So, vanquished!
I moved close to the city because research says that distance from work is one of the highest determinants of happiness, but I don’t feel THAT much happier because of that, once accounting for other reasons I’m happy after the move. So now, I’m gonna hold off on making an income goal of 40,000 dollars a year after all monetary goals and minding doesn’t make us happier.
5. Personality disorder recovery log
Right now my mental health diagnosis is personality disorder not otherwhere specified which basically means I relate to people in abnormal ways but clinicians aren’t sure how to label it. This section is for insights that seem useful to me, and that I would appreciate comment on. I seem to have depressive cognition like depressive personality disorder, self defeating (masochistic) traits, avoidant, borderline traits and narcissistic traits—not very proud of all that...well maybe a little ;) Clinicians tend to believe that it’s more a cluster B personality disorder though.
Don’t let others create meaning for you. Decide what meaning they will have for you
If somone scowls at you maybe they’re not scowling at somethng about you just maybe having a bad day
Learn healthy anger
Idealisation causes high expectation causes not enough individual responsibility on my part in a relationship
I assume people are ‘fragile’ and can’t handle things like accusations and anger and emotionally charged conversations, like me...falsely
I’ve been recommended for cognitive analytic therapy and psychodynamic therapy—more so the latter.
are women childish?
Can you give me a source for this? I’ve never heard of anyone renouncing their caste, and I have heard about many instances of lower-caste people lying about their caste, and I can’t reconcile the two.
Beyond caste might be misleading. You can always become casteless, but that is worse than being the lowest caste.
Oh, OK. I suspected that’s what Clarity meant. It’s a bit misleading to call that “opting out”.
Every sanyasi is beyond caste. You can ask them, it’s an oral tradition more than a written tradition. People lie that they are lower caste too for affirmative action.
Well at least, your accounts are safe now.
Your first point matches what I’ve heard about people being very willing to work long hours to get time and a half pay.