Got a project you’ve been excited about but afraid to start? Don’t even think about it—don’t enjoy the fantasy of it; stop telling your friends about it; pretend you never had that intention in the first place.
In other words, aggressively run away from your goals, and reflect on how miserable it is to live that way. The reflection is crucial: if you’re self-forgetful / not mindful about it, you’ll risk staying in that state. Do it for a week or two, reflect on how much it sucks, and in doing so you’ll condition your mind to view the goal as a valuable opportunity to escape that misery (which it is).
As someone who was diagnosed with adult ADD at age 43 in 2019, I thought I knew how my scumbag brain worked. I have daily conversations with similar minded colleagues at work (we call these our informal therapy sessions), however, what my stimulant medication and these therapy sessions fail to address is motivation! I’ve read countless text and spoken to many people about ADHD and the fact that medication may help you to focus on a task once you start it—but it’s curing the “getting started” part that is extremely individualistic. Many people will give tips on how to solve this problem, but until now, none of them have ever come close to addressing my own internal demons.
What I read on this page today was the magical silver bullet for me. The longer I read, the more tick boxes I checked for my individual circumstances. Better still, having read the solutions provided, I found myself nodding instead of poo pooing them, testing them against my internal monologue of “nah, that won’t work for me”, and finding that almost ALL of them have come back with positive reactions. This is a first!
In short, I am incredibly happy that I stumbled upon your website today. At age 48, the huge “project” that I have been excitedly telling everyone about is for me to gain a professional certification which is incredibly difficult (and expensive) to obtain. Work have paid the full cost of this venture for me, and I have told everyone that’ll listen about how I intend to pass the exam—and that is the fantasy of it. I’ve spent the past 45 days procrastinating instead of knuckling down with the study review. Nothing has worked...but I can already feel that some of your solutions will be successful, namely the piece “aggressively run away from your goals, and reflect on how miserable it is to live that way”. I can actually feel that this reflection technique, combined with some of the Natural recovery methods, will drag me out of this rut! ❤
As someone who was diagnosed with adult ADD at age 43 in 2019, I thought I knew how my scumbag brain worked. I have daily conversations with similar minded colleagues at work (we call these our informal therapy sessions), however, what my stimulant medication and these therapy sessions fail to address is motivation! I’ve read countless text and spoken to many people about ADHD and the fact that medication may help you to focus on a task once you start it—but it’s curing the “getting started” part that is extremely individualistic. Many people will give tips on how to solve this problem, but until now, none of them have ever come close to addressing my own internal demons.
What I read on this page today was the magical silver bullet for me. The longer I read, the more tick boxes I checked for my individual circumstances. Better still, having read the solutions provided, I found myself nodding instead of poo pooing them, testing them against my internal monologue of “nah, that won’t work for me”, and finding that almost ALL of them have come back with positive reactions. This is a first!
In short, I am incredibly happy that I stumbled upon your website today. At age 48, the huge “project” that I have been excitedly telling everyone about is for me to gain a professional certification which is incredibly difficult (and expensive) to obtain. Work have paid the full cost of this venture for me, and I have told everyone that’ll listen about how I intend to pass the exam—and that is the fantasy of it. I’ve spent the past 45 days procrastinating instead of knuckling down with the study review. Nothing has worked...but I can already feel that some of your solutions will be successful, namely the piece “aggressively run away from your goals, and reflect on how miserable it is to live that way”. I can actually feel that this reflection technique, combined with some of the Natural recovery methods, will drag me out of this rut! ❤