The surprise I had here is that when my dad taught me chess when I was about 5, something that stands out in my memory is that he emphasized that he would always play to win, and if I won it would be a really victory, and if I lost I did not have a right to complain. I did not win much, but I really liked playing. I remember wanting to play more and him not having time, rather than having a problem with motivation.
I seem to recall a friend having a similar dynamic with his father, which soured significantly when the friend started routinely winning.
I seem to recall a friend having a similar dynamic with his father, which soured significantly when the friend started routinely winning.