I feel my own judgement is suspect on this occasion. I don’t know. I want to help her and she’s alternating between being incredibly blase and being furious with me. It’s not like I can just point her at some books to read, because her and my dad don’t like to read. And the things that convinced me, my parents regard as rubbish or nonsense and get-your-head-out-of-space-go-get-married-and-be-normal-goddamnit!
If I continue to pursue this, either the relationship between my parents and I will suffer and they won’t choose to freeze themselves, or they’ll choose to freeze themselves and our relationship won’t suffer. Large risk, large benefit.
My other consideration is to attempt to be subtle, plant the seeds in their heads that give them the sense that maybe the world doesn’t work how they think it does (I managed to convince my dad that the earth was old and that dinosaurs did not roam the earth with humans this way, so it has some merit.)
(I managed to convince my dad that the earth was old and that dinosaurs did not roam the earth with humans this way, so it has some merit.)
This aside’s quite important; it sounds like the inferential distance between you and your parents is huge. Trying to bridge it in one fell swoop is quite ambitious, so I’d err towards a slow & subtle approach. (Not that I have much experience with this problem!)
I think subtlety usually works the best with stubborn individuals, but might easily backfire now that you’ve been in their face. If you were to use that strategy, I’d recommend you let the issue settle for a while so that they don’t immediately see what you’re trying to do. If they realize you’re manipulating them, that might make them even less susceptible to your ideas. Planning is the key, unless it’s an emergency.
Don’t try to push an idea in a way that costs you something.
When it comes to convincing others it helps to understand the other person. Nobody get’s angry if you show genuine interest into how they think the world works. Listen a lot.
It might also help to reduce the amount of things that make her furious with you. If those wouldn’t exist it might be easier to convince her on other questions.
I’ve read it.
I feel my own judgement is suspect on this occasion. I don’t know. I want to help her and she’s alternating between being incredibly blase and being furious with me. It’s not like I can just point her at some books to read, because her and my dad don’t like to read. And the things that convinced me, my parents regard as rubbish or nonsense and get-your-head-out-of-space-go-get-married-and-be-normal-goddamnit!
If I continue to pursue this, either the relationship between my parents and I will suffer and they won’t choose to freeze themselves, or they’ll choose to freeze themselves and our relationship won’t suffer. Large risk, large benefit.
My other consideration is to attempt to be subtle, plant the seeds in their heads that give them the sense that maybe the world doesn’t work how they think it does (I managed to convince my dad that the earth was old and that dinosaurs did not roam the earth with humans this way, so it has some merit.)
This aside’s quite important; it sounds like the inferential distance between you and your parents is huge. Trying to bridge it in one fell swoop is quite ambitious, so I’d err towards a slow & subtle approach. (Not that I have much experience with this problem!)
I think subtlety usually works the best with stubborn individuals, but might easily backfire now that you’ve been in their face. If you were to use that strategy, I’d recommend you let the issue settle for a while so that they don’t immediately see what you’re trying to do. If they realize you’re manipulating them, that might make them even less susceptible to your ideas. Planning is the key, unless it’s an emergency.
Don’t try to push an idea in a way that costs you something.
When it comes to convincing others it helps to understand the other person. Nobody get’s angry if you show genuine interest into how they think the world works. Listen a lot.
It might also help to reduce the amount of things that make her furious with you. If those wouldn’t exist it might be easier to convince her on other questions.