In cases where you’re worried about bad behavior by an org or have had a bad experience with them and don’t want to interact with them (including the examples you described above) I agree it’s fine to go ahead without sending it to them.
On the other hand, I think this is only rarely the case for critical posts? The larger category, what this doesn’t apply, is what I was trying to address here. I should edit the post to include this, though I need to think about the wording and don’t have time to make the change right now.
Right. I suspect we still have some disagreement but happy to leave it here.
(To briefly leave pointer, but with no expectation Jeff for you to respond to it: I think this sort of dynamic extends further into lots of other criticism, where even if your criticism isn’t about bad behavior you’re still pretty unsure how they respond to criticism and whether they’ll respond well, and it can be very stressful to engage directly yet still pro-social to publish criticism.)
In cases where you’re worried about bad behavior by an org or have had a bad experience with them and don’t want to interact with them (including the examples you described above) I agree it’s fine to go ahead without sending it to them.
On the other hand, I think this is only rarely the case for critical posts? The larger category, what this doesn’t apply, is what I was trying to address here. I should edit the post to include this, though I need to think about the wording and don’t have time to make the change right now.
Right. I suspect we still have some disagreement but happy to leave it here.
(To briefly leave pointer, but with no expectation Jeff for you to respond to it: I think this sort of dynamic extends further into lots of other criticism, where even if your criticism isn’t about bad behavior you’re still pretty unsure how they respond to criticism and whether they’ll respond well, and it can be very stressful to engage directly yet still pro-social to publish criticism.)
Edited to add something covering this, though I suspect it doesn’t go as far as you’d prefer?
(Also curious what you think of Ray’s argument)
I actually think your caveat helps a lot.