To be more specific, I have always understood it as attempting to contrast with grudging consent, and as having nothing at all to do with exuberance or excitement.
Ok. The thing is that grudging consent is still consent. If you grudgingly buy something you can’t sue to get your money back.
I agree that grudging consent is still consent. My understanding of what advocates of “enthusiastic consent” are talking about includes the idea that mere consent is insufficient for sex… e.g that sex is held to a different standard than marketplace purchases. (Lemon laws similarly establish an alternate threshold for car purchases.)
My understanding of what advocates of “enthusiastic consent” are talking about includes the idea that mere consent is insufficient for sex… e.g that sex is held to a different standard than marketplace purchases.
I don’t think most feminists would say that explicitly, because that immediately raises the question of why should the standards be different and why that particular standard. Incidentally, I’ve been involved in at least one argument with a feminist where “my side’s” goal was for or less to get him to admit that the above was a consequence of his position.
(Lemon laws similarly establish an alternate threshold for car purchases.)
Lemon laws are different, they’re about the buyer being misinformed.
I expect that most of the feminists I know would agree with my statement.
In general, my country’s laws don’t treat sex as equivalent to marketplace purchases, so the question of why the standard should be different for the two doesn’t seem terribly important to avoid… we run into analogous questions all the time without fleeing from them.
The question of why that particular standard might be worth avoiding; I’m unsure.
Yes, but I still think it’s a bad thing when people are talked into begrudgingly buy stuff they don’t actually want, and I would be in favour of changing social norms so that that happens less often… if only I had any idea how to do that without also disapproving of bargaining.
Ok. The thing is that grudging consent is still consent. If you grudgingly buy something you can’t sue to get your money back.
I agree that grudging consent is still consent. My understanding of what advocates of “enthusiastic consent” are talking about includes the idea that mere consent is insufficient for sex… e.g that sex is held to a different standard than marketplace purchases. (Lemon laws similarly establish an alternate threshold for car purchases.)
I don’t think most feminists would say that explicitly, because that immediately raises the question of why should the standards be different and why that particular standard. Incidentally, I’ve been involved in at least one argument with a feminist where “my side’s” goal was for or less to get him to admit that the above was a consequence of his position.
Lemon laws are different, they’re about the buyer being misinformed.
I expect that most of the feminists I know would agree with my statement.
In general, my country’s laws don’t treat sex as equivalent to marketplace purchases, so the question of why the standard should be different for the two doesn’t seem terribly important to avoid… we run into analogous questions all the time without fleeing from them.
The question of why that particular standard might be worth avoiding; I’m unsure.
Come to think of it, the feminist in question was on the extreme sex-positive end.
Yes, but I still think it’s a bad thing when people are talked into begrudgingly buy stuff they don’t actually want, and I would be in favour of changing social norms so that that happens less often… if only I had any idea how to do that without also disapproving of bargaining.
This was going to be my reply to you comment. Basically, this is why people doing things “begrudgingly” is not necessarily a bad thing.