To be clear, I agree with you that a lot of women don’t want the onus put on them, I was trying to make that point in what I wrote, although I obviously did not make it directly enough.
I do think that with a cultural shift, this is changeable. I don’t think making that cultural shift would be easy, although I do think its possible and that some liberal culture is moving that direction. Also, I know culture around sex is very different in other countries, and I have no idea how this all plays out elsewhere.
I find attitudes around mating rituals surprisingly traditional even among people otherwise ideologically opposed to anything traditional, and supposedly beyond old fashioned gender roles.
I find it puzzling and extremely alien the way many women who I find quite reasonable otherwise rather unreasonably, in my mind, refuse to make a move, instead hoping that their desired man will. But that’s the way it is. This rule has barely budged compared to other sexual rules, which have changed enormously in the last 40 years.
To be clear, I agree with you that a lot of women don’t want the onus put on them, I was trying to make that point in what I wrote, although I obviously did not make it directly enough.
I do think that with a cultural shift, this is changeable. I don’t think making that cultural shift would be easy, although I do think its possible and that some liberal culture is moving that direction. Also, I know culture around sex is very different in other countries, and I have no idea how this all plays out elsewhere.
I find attitudes around mating rituals surprisingly traditional even among people otherwise ideologically opposed to anything traditional, and supposedly beyond old fashioned gender roles.
I find it puzzling and extremely alien the way many women who I find quite reasonable otherwise rather unreasonably, in my mind, refuse to make a move, instead hoping that their desired man will. But that’s the way it is. This rule has barely budged compared to other sexual rules, which have changed enormously in the last 40 years.