Yes. If the feminism is supposedly about the equality of sexes, why is hatred against men so tolerated?
Ironically, feminism is good at describing the problems of such behavior when men do it. Like: it’s not enough if you don’t tell rape jokes, you also shouldn’t be a friend with people who do, or at least you should tell them to shut up; otherwise it seems like you give them a silent support. Yes, and for pretty much the same reason, you should also say something when people from your movement preach hatred against men; just not doing it with them is not enough.
More meta: All ethical commandments that feminism currently proposes for men should be symetrical. If it’s bad when men do it, then it is also bad when women do it. Perhaps today mostly men do it, so the efficient use of resources is to focus on stopping men from doing it; but the rule should be gender-neutral anyway, even if the current policy isn’t. (Violence against people is bad. Hating people because of their gender is wrong.) Otherwise some people will intrepret it like an asymetrical moral rule, and the rest will seem like giving them a silent support.
there are transgendered people who died because they couldn’t get into women’s shelters.
How about having also some shelters for men? By the way, Erin Pizzey, the person who started women’s shelters in Europe didn’t have a problem with that: she also had a shelter for men. Guess what happened? Feminists started sending her death threats, scared her enough to make her leave the country, then took over her shelter network, and removed her name. I am not making this up! (But I am sure they don’t teach this in Feminism 101.)
The Victorians had a dream of the ideal woman who was physically, intellectually, and financially helpless.
Reminds me of a discussion with my girlfriend. She said that society puts pressure to both men and women to fit their gender roles, but the difference is that the actions expected from men are intrinsically useful, while the actions expected from women are useless. For example, men are pressed into making a lot of money, and while the pressure itself can be bad, having money is good, per se. So a man who makes a lot of money fulfills the social expectations and has the advantage of being rich, at the same time. (Then we had some problems making specific examples about what the society actually wants from women. Perhaps there are multiple, sometimes contradictory social pressures today.)
But I guess we didn’t have this Victorian ideal in this part of the world. Or, more likely, the nobility had it, but for some reasons it never spread to lower classes. Or perhaps the communism eradicated such mannerisms. Don’t know; should ask someone better in history. (EDIT: After some research, it seems the communists removed all the upper-class manners.)
For example, there was never an issue with black women working for money outside the home, as there was for middle to upper class white women.
Maybe the situation of an average Eastern European woman is in some aspects more similar to the situation of an average black woman in USA, than of the Victorian lady.
Yes. If the feminism is supposedly about the equality of sexes, why is hatred against men so tolerated?
That was probably a rhetorical question, but I think the answer is that it’s easier to recruit people for a fight than for making things better for people in general.
Yes, and for pretty much the same reason, you should also say something when people from your movement preach hatred against men; just not doing it with them is not enough.
Indeed, but it’s hard work, and can be emotionally damaging.
From what I can tell, Erin Pizzey was attacked for saying that a majority of the women in domestic violence shelters were violent themselves.
Until I looked for details, I didn’t know she was involved with shelters for men, and I think her early career was about shelters for women.
She said that society puts pressure to both men and women to fit their gender roles, but the difference is that the actions expected from men are intrinsically useful, while the actions expected from women are useless.
Bearing and raising children is useless?
The Feminine Mystique was about the situation of middle to upper class women in the US in the 50s and 60s—they’d been educated, but then they were expected to limit their ambition to taking care of suburban households, and it was making them crazy. This was a toned-down version of the situation of Victorian upper class women.
Are Eastern European women expected to work for money, but very hard for very little money?
The Feminine Mystique was about the situation of middle to upper class women in the US in the 50s and 60s—they’d been educated, but then they were expected to limit their ambition to taking care of suburban households, and it was making them crazy. This was a toned-down version of the situation of Victorian upper class women.
It also didn’t help that advances in technology had made taking care of the household a lot more boring.
It also didn’t help that advances in technology had made taking care of the household a lot more boring.
They did? Spending 4 hours cleaning clothes with a washboard sounds more boring than spending 40 minutes loading & running a washing machine (for example).
They did? Spending 4 hours cleaning clothes with a washboard sounds more boring than spending 40 minutes loading & running a washing machine (for example).
Well the Victorian upper class women Nancy referred to wouldn’t be doing that, they’d be managing their servants cleaning the clothes with a washboard.
Quite true, but given your reference to “advances in technology” I thought you were talking about “middle to upper class women in the US in the 50s and 60s”.
Yes. If the feminism is supposedly about the equality of sexes, why is hatred against men so tolerated?
Ironically, feminism is good at describing the problems of such behavior when men do it. Like: it’s not enough if you don’t tell rape jokes, you also shouldn’t be a friend with people who do, or at least you should tell them to shut up; otherwise it seems like you give them a silent support. Yes, and for pretty much the same reason, you should also say something when people from your movement preach hatred against men; just not doing it with them is not enough.
More meta: All ethical commandments that feminism currently proposes for men should be symetrical. If it’s bad when men do it, then it is also bad when women do it. Perhaps today mostly men do it, so the efficient use of resources is to focus on stopping men from doing it; but the rule should be gender-neutral anyway, even if the current policy isn’t. (Violence against people is bad. Hating people because of their gender is wrong.) Otherwise some people will intrepret it like an asymetrical moral rule, and the rest will seem like giving them a silent support.
How about having also some shelters for men? By the way, Erin Pizzey, the person who started women’s shelters in Europe didn’t have a problem with that: she also had a shelter for men. Guess what happened? Feminists started sending her death threats, scared her enough to make her leave the country, then took over her shelter network, and removed her name. I am not making this up! (But I am sure they don’t teach this in Feminism 101.)
Reminds me of a discussion with my girlfriend. She said that society puts pressure to both men and women to fit their gender roles, but the difference is that the actions expected from men are intrinsically useful, while the actions expected from women are useless. For example, men are pressed into making a lot of money, and while the pressure itself can be bad, having money is good, per se. So a man who makes a lot of money fulfills the social expectations and has the advantage of being rich, at the same time. (Then we had some problems making specific examples about what the society actually wants from women. Perhaps there are multiple, sometimes contradictory social pressures today.)
But I guess we didn’t have this Victorian ideal in this part of the world. Or, more likely, the nobility had it, but for some reasons it never spread to lower classes. Or perhaps the communism eradicated such mannerisms. Don’t know; should ask someone better in history. (EDIT: After some research, it seems the communists removed all the upper-class manners.)
Maybe the situation of an average Eastern European woman is in some aspects more similar to the situation of an average black woman in USA, than of the Victorian lady.
That was probably a rhetorical question, but I think the answer is that it’s easier to recruit people for a fight than for making things better for people in general.
Indeed, but it’s hard work, and can be emotionally damaging.
From what I can tell, Erin Pizzey was attacked for saying that a majority of the women in domestic violence shelters were violent themselves.
Until I looked for details, I didn’t know she was involved with shelters for men, and I think her early career was about shelters for women.
Bearing and raising children is useless?
The Feminine Mystique was about the situation of middle to upper class women in the US in the 50s and 60s—they’d been educated, but then they were expected to limit their ambition to taking care of suburban households, and it was making them crazy. This was a toned-down version of the situation of Victorian upper class women.
Are Eastern European women expected to work for money, but very hard for very little money?
It also didn’t help that advances in technology had made taking care of the household a lot more boring.
They did? Spending 4 hours cleaning clothes with a washboard sounds more boring than spending 40 minutes loading & running a washing machine (for example).
Well the Victorian upper class women Nancy referred to wouldn’t be doing that, they’d be managing their servants cleaning the clothes with a washboard.
Quite true, but given your reference to “advances in technology” I thought you were talking about “middle to upper class women in the US in the 50s and 60s”.
I was comparing the Victorian upper class women with middle to upper class women in the US in the 50s and 60s.