This response doesn’t really suggest that you’re taking your own responsibilities seriously in this matter.
The specifics here are interesting, but there’s a more general point. If your interaction with a community isn’t productive, there is simply no point in bemoaning the failings of the community and then carrying on as before. No matter what failings the community might or might not have, the only actions you directly decide are your own, and the only options that make sense are to give up and leave, or to figure out what action you can take to bring about more productive interaction.
You might think that the focus should be on what we should do to improve the interaction. If that’s so, your thoughts should still lead you to consider what you can do to bring about that change in us; if you think the problem is a systematic failure in us, there are few places where a genuine effort to persuade us of that would be more welcome.
Whatever you do, don’t bang your head against the wall. Either give up on us, or think about what you can do to maximize the productiveness of your interaction with us.
This response doesn’t really suggest that you’re taking your own responsibilities seriously in this matter.
The specifics here are interesting, but there’s a more general point. If your interaction with a community isn’t productive, there is simply no point in bemoaning the failings of the community and then carrying on as before. No matter what failings the community might or might not have, the only actions you directly decide are your own, and the only options that make sense are to give up and leave, or to figure out what action you can take to bring about more productive interaction.
You might think that the focus should be on what we should do to improve the interaction. If that’s so, your thoughts should still lead you to consider what you can do to bring about that change in us; if you think the problem is a systematic failure in us, there are few places where a genuine effort to persuade us of that would be more welcome.
Whatever you do, don’t bang your head against the wall. Either give up on us, or think about what you can do to maximize the productiveness of your interaction with us.