I recently played a little game with some friends where we each came up with three positive adjectives to characterize each of the other members of the group. Nearly everyone in the group used some synonym for the word “likable” or “charming” for me. I do not see myself this way—I do not think my social skills are “sub-par” but I think they are maybe … “par.” Apparently I am just totally wrong about this.
Maybe be open to the possibility that you are also wrong about this? I don’t know if you have friends who you could directly ask a question like this?
Edited to add: it was a remarkable exercise in that the chosen words tended to be so coherent. In two different cases people chose identical words to describe the same person. In zero cases were anyone’s assessments in wild disagreement with anyone else’s. Apparently “pick 3 adjectives” is a robust characterization technique.
What do you consider to be “evidence”?
I recently played a little game with some friends where we each came up with three positive adjectives to characterize each of the other members of the group. Nearly everyone in the group used some synonym for the word “likable” or “charming” for me. I do not see myself this way—I do not think my social skills are “sub-par” but I think they are maybe … “par.” Apparently I am just totally wrong about this.
Maybe be open to the possibility that you are also wrong about this? I don’t know if you have friends who you could directly ask a question like this?
Did each member of the group get to see or hear the others’ adjectives before choosing their own?
No, it was all mutually blind.
Edited to add: it was a remarkable exercise in that the chosen words tended to be so coherent. In two different cases people chose identical words to describe the same person. In zero cases were anyone’s assessments in wild disagreement with anyone else’s. Apparently “pick 3 adjectives” is a robust characterization technique.