Yesterday my mom noticed (at a funeral) that I wasn’t praying or participating in the mass.
This is remarkably bad timing if it was someone your mother or you cared about. I understand what it is like not wanting to keep up pretences. But just looking at it from a consequentalist standpoint, calmly approaching your mother on a different day and explaining that you don’t believe in God and don’t wish to keep up pretences (while still being ok with going to weddings and funerals or celebrating Christmas ect. as you seem to say in a different post) seems a much better course of action than not participating in the “religious” components of such an event.
If you weren’t planning on coming clean with your beliefs, you shouldn’t have changed your behaviour in such a obvious way.
I didn’t mean to rub it in, I really hope it didn’t come of like that. I was just making the reasoning explicit for other people in similar circumstances who might be reading this thread. While this isn’t that big a thread so far, one shouldn’t forget that what is written on the internet stays around for a long time.
This is remarkably bad timing if it was someone your mother or you cared about. I understand what it is like not wanting to keep up pretences. But just looking at it from a consequentalist standpoint, calmly approaching your mother on a different day and explaining that you don’t believe in God and don’t wish to keep up pretences (while still being ok with going to weddings and funerals or celebrating Christmas ect. as you seem to say in a different post) seems a much better course of action than not participating in the “religious” components of such an event.
If you weren’t planning on coming clean with your beliefs, you shouldn’t have changed your behaviour in such a obvious way.
It wasn’t anyone she knew well. It was an Aunt’s brother on my dad’s side, who is not related to us, nor did my mom know him well personally.
I stopped participating in Mass over a year ago. She took a bad time to notice.
That puts you in a better position than I originally feared.
Humans are really annoying that way.
Hah. I know, right?
I’m pretty sure that Michelle realizes this by now.
I didn’t mean to rub it in, I really hope it didn’t come of like that. I was just making the reasoning explicit for other people in similar circumstances who might be reading this thread. While this isn’t that big a thread so far, one shouldn’t forget that what is written on the internet stays around for a long time.
Ah, good point. I didn’t think of that.
I knew you weren’t. It’s a fair point.