Is anyone actually interested in the weather? I thought it was the stereotypical thing that people turn to when they can’t think of anything interesting to talk about.
It is the sterotypical thing to talk about, but the point is not the actual weather. It is signal that they would rather be talking to you than be silent. It’s an invitation to start a conversation, since people don’t routinely come up to you and say ‘I would like to being a conversation with you—please suggest a topic’. They say ‘Raining again!’ instead.
Also, talking about a shared experience is powerful, no matter what that experience is. Compare other generic conversation topics: if you both saw the same movie lately, or both watched [$SPORTS_EVENT], then that’s a shared experience. You can’t necessarily rely on the other person having seen the latest cultural whatsit, but you can be pretty sure they’ve experienced the weather.
I’m somewhat interested in the weather—it affects my quality of life.
One problem with being asked about one’s life—when some people do it, I feel like I’m being interrogated. I’ve got a friend who makes it feel like being interviewed by someone who’s got a friendly interest, but I’m don’t even have a theory about what creates the different effects.
I’ve got some ability to do small talk. What I’d like to be able to do is bet better at making a transition to more interesting topics.
Is anyone actually interested in the weather? I thought it was the stereotypical thing that people turn to when they can’t think of anything interesting to talk about.
It is the sterotypical thing to talk about, but the point is not the actual weather. It is signal that they would rather be talking to you than be silent. It’s an invitation to start a conversation, since people don’t routinely come up to you and say ‘I would like to being a conversation with you—please suggest a topic’. They say ‘Raining again!’ instead.
Also, talking about a shared experience is powerful, no matter what that experience is. Compare other generic conversation topics: if you both saw the same movie lately, or both watched [$SPORTS_EVENT], then that’s a shared experience. You can’t necessarily rely on the other person having seen the latest cultural whatsit, but you can be pretty sure they’ve experienced the weather.
I’m somewhat interested in the weather—it affects my quality of life.
One problem with being asked about one’s life—when some people do it, I feel like I’m being interrogated. I’ve got a friend who makes it feel like being interviewed by someone who’s got a friendly interest, but I’m don’t even have a theory about what creates the different effects.
I’ve got some ability to do small talk. What I’d like to be able to do is bet better at making a transition to more interesting topics.