It’s a bit of a cliche for children of a certain age to say that their parents don’t understand them when, in fact, they understand them perfectly well, but my father has admitted to me that he doesn’t understand my feelings and behavior, so I’m not going to him for advice on how to live my life.
Perhaps it is possible that your parent(s) “doesn’t understand you” but still internally expects to, and so does worse than someone who doesn’t know you or knows you from recent experience.
I said almost, didn’t I?
It’s a bit of a cliche for children of a certain age to say that their parents don’t understand them when, in fact, they understand them perfectly well, but my father has admitted to me that he doesn’t understand my feelings and behavior, so I’m not going to him for advice on how to live my life.
And you expect complete strangers to do better? I’m not sure that’s rational.
Conversely, if you’ve adequately constrained the problem for us, surely you can adequately constrain it for him?
That’s… a pretty good point, actually.
At least there’s more of you, though; you might suggest something I haven’t thought about before.
Perhaps it is possible that your parent(s) “doesn’t understand you” but still internally expects to, and so does worse than someone who doesn’t know you or knows you from recent experience.