Well, for one, I like the house I live in, and, for the most part, my parents let me do what I want. I just don’t feel any particular need or desire to move out and, financially at least, I’m getting a great deal. Moving out would drive up my expenses enormously, because I’d no longer be able to use my parents’ stuff, including their HDTV, their internet connection, and all those other things. (Incidentally, I have a first cousin once removed who never moved out of his parents’ house. Unlike me, though, he does have a job.)
As for giving up hope, well, yeah, I basically gave up hope way back in 1997. I have a lot of trouble trying to imagine the kind of activity that I would find fulfilling and could realistically expect to get paid for. For the most part, I just try to get through life one day at a time, doing my best to anesthetize myself and not think about the future.
Crono, that’s a horrible, horrible state to be in, and in asking for advice, you’re asking completely the wrong question. For your own sanity, you need to find something you enjoy doing, not just something that can soften the pain for one more day.
I’ve been in your position before. In some respects, I still am. I thought I couldn’t get a job and any job I’d get I’d be unable to handle. I had no connections, but finally was able to find one in my field.
Maybe a standard day job isn’t right for you, but you need to look for something more ambitious than living with your parents, even if you enjoy the amenities. There are many things you can try. Just keep churning through them, or resign yourself to worsening sadness.
If you think you can do well at Intrade, I’ll loan you the money if you can put up your karma as collateral.
Crono, that’s a horrible, horrible state to be in, and in asking for advice, you’re asking completely the wrong question. For your own sanity, you need to find something you enjoy doing, not just something that can soften the pain for one more day.
Well… I think I like playing Magic, or, at least, I like winning at Magic. (When I lose a lot, I have a tendency to take it pretty hard.) For some reason, video games start to become a lot less appealing when I don’t have some homework to put off. But, yeah, to paraphrase something I once heard about drug addiction, I don’t play video games to games to feel good, I play them in order to feel normal.
Maybe a standard day job isn’t right for you, but you need to look for something more ambitious than living with your parents, even if you enjoy the amenities.
Let me put it this way:
If I won a huge lottery jackpot tomorrow and could easily afford to maintain my current lifestyle with no effort, independent of my parents’ financial support, I still probably wouldn’t move out, because I like living with my parents. What bothers me is that I’m dependent on them for financial support, so whenever they ask me to do something, there’s always an undercurrent of “if you make us angry enough, you’ll be out on the streets.” (It still beats working, though.)
There’s only one thing that I want that I can’t get by living at home, and that’s a cat. It might be a bit silly, but I feel as though if I had a cat, I wouldn’t have to be lonely or sad any more.
If you think you can do well at Intrade, I’ll loan you the money if you can put up your karma as collateral.
That sounds flagrantly inappropriate. If you are confident that CronoDAS trying his hand at Intrade would be a good risk, why don’t you just loan him the money and ask for interest or some percentage of what he makes? If you aren’t confident that he’d do well enough to pay you back, isn’t this just outright karma purchase?
If you expect that he’d make some effort, and be defeated by akrasia, then clearly, you are not confident that he would do well.
My point isn’t that, however. My point is that karma is inappropriate collateral, even if there were some easy way to move it from one person to another.
The only thing inhibiting such a transfer is the very fact that those who consider it innapropriate would prevent it politically. Even then, if someone wants to and is uninterested in said social judgements beyond their political implications then it would not exactly be hard to make the transfer subtly.
Another thing: Can you go over this one more time:
Something like $8,000 a year, after taxes, would be more than enough, as long as I can continue to live in my parents’ house rent-free.
What made you decide you’re okay with living with your parents for the rest of your life? Did you really give up hope or something?
Well, for one, I like the house I live in, and, for the most part, my parents let me do what I want. I just don’t feel any particular need or desire to move out and, financially at least, I’m getting a great deal. Moving out would drive up my expenses enormously, because I’d no longer be able to use my parents’ stuff, including their HDTV, their internet connection, and all those other things. (Incidentally, I have a first cousin once removed who never moved out of his parents’ house. Unlike me, though, he does have a job.)
As for giving up hope, well, yeah, I basically gave up hope way back in 1997. I have a lot of trouble trying to imagine the kind of activity that I would find fulfilling and could realistically expect to get paid for. For the most part, I just try to get through life one day at a time, doing my best to anesthetize myself and not think about the future.
Crono, that’s a horrible, horrible state to be in, and in asking for advice, you’re asking completely the wrong question. For your own sanity, you need to find something you enjoy doing, not just something that can soften the pain for one more day.
I’ve been in your position before. In some respects, I still am. I thought I couldn’t get a job and any job I’d get I’d be unable to handle. I had no connections, but finally was able to find one in my field.
Maybe a standard day job isn’t right for you, but you need to look for something more ambitious than living with your parents, even if you enjoy the amenities. There are many things you can try. Just keep churning through them, or resign yourself to worsening sadness.
If you think you can do well at Intrade, I’ll loan you the money if you can put up your karma as collateral.
Well… I think I like playing Magic, or, at least, I like winning at Magic. (When I lose a lot, I have a tendency to take it pretty hard.) For some reason, video games start to become a lot less appealing when I don’t have some homework to put off. But, yeah, to paraphrase something I once heard about drug addiction, I don’t play video games to games to feel good, I play them in order to feel normal.
Let me put it this way:
If I won a huge lottery jackpot tomorrow and could easily afford to maintain my current lifestyle with no effort, independent of my parents’ financial support, I still probably wouldn’t move out, because I like living with my parents. What bothers me is that I’m dependent on them for financial support, so whenever they ask me to do something, there’s always an undercurrent of “if you make us angry enough, you’ll be out on the streets.” (It still beats working, though.)
There’s only one thing that I want that I can’t get by living at home, and that’s a cat. It might be a bit silly, but I feel as though if I had a cat, I wouldn’t have to be lonely or sad any more.
That sounds flagrantly inappropriate. If you are confident that CronoDAS trying his hand at Intrade would be a good risk, why don’t you just loan him the money and ask for interest or some percentage of what he makes? If you aren’t confident that he’d do well enough to pay you back, isn’t this just outright karma purchase?
Just a hedge against any akrasia that might pop up.
Replace “do well enough” with “make any effort at all”, then.
“make any effort at all” =/= “no akrasia”
If you expect that he’d make some effort, and be defeated by akrasia, then clearly, you are not confident that he would do well.
My point isn’t that, however. My point is that karma is inappropriate collateral, even if there were some easy way to move it from one person to another.
“Even if”? Are you serious?
The only thing inhibiting such a transfer is the very fact that those who consider it innapropriate would prevent it politically. Even then, if someone wants to and is uninterested in said social judgements beyond their political implications then it would not exactly be hard to make the transfer subtly.
I wouldn’t think that I know more than anybody else about most of the topics on Intrade, although betting against cold fusion seems like a good idea.