There’s a common fear response, as though disapproval = death or exile, not a mild diminution in opportunities for advancement. Fear is the body’s stereotyped configuration optimized to prevent or mitigate imminent bodily damage. Most such social threats do not correspond to a danger that is either imminent or severe, but are instead more like moves in a dance that trigger the same interpretive response.
Re-reading my comment, the thing that jumps to mind is that “I currently know of no alternative path to success”. When I am given the option between “Go all in on this path being a fair path to success” and “I know of no path to success and will just have to give up working my way along any particular path, and am instead basically on the path to being a failure”, I find it quite painful to accept the latter, and find it easier on the margin to self-deceive about how much reason I have to think the first path works.
I think a few times in my life (e.g. trying to get into the most prestigious UK university, trying to be a successful student once I got in) I could think of no other path in life I could take than the one I was betting on. This made me quite desperate to believe that the current one was working out okay.
I think “fear’ is an accurate description from my reaction to thinking about the alternative (of failure). Freezing up, not being able to act.
Reality is sufficiently high-dimensional and heterogeneous that if it doesn’t seem like there’s a meaningful “explore/investigate” option with unbounded potential upside, you’re applying a VERY lossy dimensional reduction to your perception.
There’s a common fear response, as though disapproval = death or exile, not a mild diminution in opportunities for advancement. Fear is the body’s stereotyped configuration optimized to prevent or mitigate imminent bodily damage. Most such social threats do not correspond to a danger that is either imminent or severe, but are instead more like moves in a dance that trigger the same interpretive response.
Re-reading my comment, the thing that jumps to mind is that “I currently know of no alternative path to success”. When I am given the option between “Go all in on this path being a fair path to success” and “I know of no path to success and will just have to give up working my way along any particular path, and am instead basically on the path to being a failure”, I find it quite painful to accept the latter, and find it easier on the margin to self-deceive about how much reason I have to think the first path works.
I think a few times in my life (e.g. trying to get into the most prestigious UK university, trying to be a successful student once I got in) I could think of no other path in life I could take than the one I was betting on. This made me quite desperate to believe that the current one was working out okay.
I think “fear’ is an accurate description from my reaction to thinking about the alternative (of failure). Freezing up, not being able to act.
Reality is sufficiently high-dimensional and heterogeneous that if it doesn’t seem like there’s a meaningful “explore/investigate” option with unbounded potential upside, you’re applying a VERY lossy dimensional reduction to your perception.