If you do something that your parents would dislike that you’d have the freedom to do while living alone when they are at work (i.e. rearrange furniture like a poltergeist, not do the dishes for weeks, paint the walls) they can hold you responsible when you get home.
If you do something that your boss wouldn’t like while you’re not on the job (get in a heated argument with someone, make a mess) your boss won’t know or care.
There’s a big difference between the type of “answering” you have to do to a boss vs. a parent. It can be the case that parent’s are more lenient, but it is also the case that their authority is everpresent.
I do agree that highly flexible jobs are difficult to find; I will note that my experience is that waking up early (I prefer a 2am bedtime, arbitrary sleep; I currently wake up at 6:30 am twice a week) is unpleasant (my alarm is set for 6am… I am usually late) but worth it for the autonomy/moneybuxx; but I don’t mean to generalize from one example too much.
If you do something that your boss wouldn’t like while you’re not on the job (get in a heated argument with someone, make a mess) your boss won’t know or care.
This is not necessarily true. For example, I’ve recently read about a campaign to remove a public school teacher because she also writes romance novels that contain sex scenes.
Public school teachers are public figures in a way that most employees aren’t; at least at the lower grade levels, their primary job is arguably to keep the sixty-odd parents of their charges happy despite the vast tarpit of bias that makes up our childrearing instincts. Much of the depth of that tarpit relates to cultural values, so I’d say your example is very much a special case. It’s hard to imagine the same campaign being aimed at, say, a NOC tech for Amazon or a sandwichifex at the local Quiznos.
True, it’s not exactly unheard of for managers to take some interest in their employees’ personal lives, and the rise of social media makes this easy to do if the inclination exists and hard to beg out of. But despite this, I’d say magfrump’s got it about right on average: the ways in which your boss will try to manage your life generally don’t have very much intersection with parental behavior, and if they do I’d suggest looking for another job.
If you do something that your parents would dislike that you’d have the freedom to do while living alone when they are at work (i.e. rearrange furniture like a poltergeist, not do the dishes for weeks, paint the walls) they can hold you responsible when you get home.
If you do something that your boss wouldn’t like while you’re not on the job (get in a heated argument with someone, make a mess) your boss won’t know or care.
There’s a big difference between the type of “answering” you have to do to a boss vs. a parent. It can be the case that parent’s are more lenient, but it is also the case that their authority is everpresent.
I do agree that highly flexible jobs are difficult to find; I will note that my experience is that waking up early (I prefer a 2am bedtime, arbitrary sleep; I currently wake up at 6:30 am twice a week) is unpleasant (my alarm is set for 6am… I am usually late) but worth it for the autonomy/moneybuxx; but I don’t mean to generalize from one example too much.
This is not necessarily true. For example, I’ve recently read about a campaign to remove a public school teacher because she also writes romance novels that contain sex scenes.
Public school teachers are public figures in a way that most employees aren’t; at least at the lower grade levels, their primary job is arguably to keep the sixty-odd parents of their charges happy despite the vast tarpit of bias that makes up our childrearing instincts. Much of the depth of that tarpit relates to cultural values, so I’d say your example is very much a special case. It’s hard to imagine the same campaign being aimed at, say, a NOC tech for Amazon or a sandwichifex at the local Quiznos.
True, it’s not exactly unheard of for managers to take some interest in their employees’ personal lives, and the rise of social media makes this easy to do if the inclination exists and hard to beg out of. But despite this, I’d say magfrump’s got it about right on average: the ways in which your boss will try to manage your life generally don’t have very much intersection with parental behavior, and if they do I’d suggest looking for another job.