Re computational unkindness, optimizing solely for what one person wants is easy. The complexity mostly arises from the picker trying to satisfy others’ implicit preferences that they pretend not to have for the sake of being “flexible”.
Complexity also arises when you have weak preferences, and think that others’ preferences might be stronger than yours. So you’re more “flexible” relatively, but there’s no good way of calibrating the strength of their preferences without repeated interactions.
prices are one of the best mechanisms for communicating the strength of preferences, but perhaps among friends you want a separate made-up currency with a more equal distribution. Daniel Reeves just bites the bullet and uses dollars though: https://messymatters.com/tv/
Re computational unkindness, optimizing solely for what one person wants is easy. The complexity mostly arises from the picker trying to satisfy others’ implicit preferences that they pretend not to have for the sake of being “flexible”.
Complexity also arises when you have weak preferences, and think that others’ preferences might be stronger than yours. So you’re more “flexible” relatively, but there’s no good way of calibrating the strength of their preferences without repeated interactions.
prices are one of the best mechanisms for communicating the strength of preferences, but perhaps among friends you want a separate made-up currency with a more equal distribution. Daniel Reeves just bites the bullet and uses dollars though: https://messymatters.com/tv/