Curated. I like the variety of the examples, really highlights how there are multiple angles from which you might fail to be kind. Though failure is a harsh term. I’m often tempted to levels of labels on things, where I do think the attempts made (“we’ll do whatever you want”, “kick me out whenever”) are still kindnesses and better than not doing those things. It’s just we can aspire to even greater levels of kindness.
I’m curious how much the response one wants to make in response to this is in that in individual interactions, move beyond cached notions of what’s kind behavior and actually boot up more detailed models of the other person and their experience as opposed to recomputing what’s actually kind across various common scenarios that can be more heuristically and cheaply applied. As usual, perhaps some of both!
Curated. I like the variety of the examples, really highlights how there are multiple angles from which you might fail to be kind. Though failure is a harsh term. I’m often tempted to levels of labels on things, where I do think the attempts made (“we’ll do whatever you want”, “kick me out whenever”) are still kindnesses and better than not doing those things. It’s just we can aspire to even greater levels of kindness.
I’m curious how much the response one wants to make in response to this is in that in individual interactions, move beyond cached notions of what’s kind behavior and actually boot up more detailed models of the other person and their experience as opposed to recomputing what’s actually kind across various common scenarios that can be more heuristically and cheaply applied. As usual, perhaps some of both!