but this would be what I’d call a “fake exit option”
Here’s how the simulation played out in my head as I was reading this:
I really wanted to halt the volunteering-chain before it came to the newbie.
I didn’t manage to complete that intention before it was too late.
I wanted to correct my mistake and complete it anyway, by trying to offer the “exit option”.
What I didn’t notice immediately was that thought 3 was ~entirely invoked by heuristics from fake kindness that I haven’t yet filtered out. Thank you for pointing it out. I may or may not have catched it if this played out IRL.
This is why social situations should have an obligatory 10-second pause between every speech-act, so I can process what’s actually going on before I make a doofy. xd
⧉: My motivations for writing this comment was: ➀ to affiliate myself with this awesome post, ➁ to say “hey I’m just like u; I care to differentiate twixt real & fake kindness!” ➂ to add my support/weight to the core of this post, and say “this matters!”
Here’s how the simulation played out in my head as I was reading this:
I really wanted to halt the volunteering-chain before it came to the newbie.
I didn’t manage to complete that intention before it was too late.
I wanted to correct my mistake and complete it anyway, by trying to offer the “exit option”.
What I didn’t notice immediately was that thought 3 was ~entirely invoked by heuristics from fake kindness that I haven’t yet filtered out. Thank you for pointing it out. I may or may not have catched it if this played out IRL.
This is why social situations should have an obligatory 10-second pause between every speech-act, so I can process what’s actually going on before I make a doofy. xd
⧉: My motivations for writing this comment was:
➀ to affiliate myself with this awesome post,
➁ to say “hey I’m just like u; I care to differentiate twixt real & fake kindness!”
➂ to add my support/weight to the core of this post, and say “this matters!”