I think it’s a fair point. To maybe clarify a bit though, while potentially strawmanning your point a bit, my intention with the post was not so much to claim “the solution to all social problems is that sufficiently-assertive people should understand the weaknesses of insufficiently-assertive people and make sure to behave in ways that don’t cause them any discomfort”, but rather I wanted to try to shed some light on situations that for a long time I found confusing and frustrating, without being fully aware of what caused that perceived friction. So I certainly agree that one solution to these situations can be to “tutor the insufficiently-assertive”. But still, such people will always exist in this world, and if you’re, say, a community builder who frequently interacts with new people, then it can still be valuable to be aware of these traps.
I think it’s a fair point. To maybe clarify a bit though, while potentially strawmanning your point a bit, my intention with the post was not so much to claim “the solution to all social problems is that sufficiently-assertive people should understand the weaknesses of insufficiently-assertive people and make sure to behave in ways that don’t cause them any discomfort”, but rather I wanted to try to shed some light on situations that for a long time I found confusing and frustrating, without being fully aware of what caused that perceived friction. So I certainly agree that one solution to these situations can be to “tutor the insufficiently-assertive”. But still, such people will always exist in this world, and if you’re, say, a community builder who frequently interacts with new people, then it can still be valuable to be aware of these traps.