This happens to me a lot less since I put effort into noticing it and actually trying to find the crux rather than just looking for different ways to state the obvious which my correspondent is obviously not getting.
So far, it almost always turns out that we’re talking about totally different things, using confusing language. Second-most common is fundamentally different simplifications of our models. Both are most common when discussing things that have zero near-mode consequences and don’t actually need resolution.
This happens to me a lot less since I put effort into noticing it and actually trying to find the crux rather than just looking for different ways to state the obvious which my correspondent is obviously not getting.
So far, it almost always turns out that we’re talking about totally different things, using confusing language. Second-most common is fundamentally different simplifications of our models. Both are most common when discussing things that have zero near-mode consequences and don’t actually need resolution.