I feel a bit icky when reading both versions. A slightly less icky version would be: ”… that stubborn but lovable species, the American partner.” I really dislike the idea of treating the two sexes as separate species, especially given how much people already do this.
I also kind of dislike the idea of training your partner like that because it feels manipulative, but that is mostly a question of how you use it. As long as you only do it on behaviours that your partner agrees are good/bad and want to do more/less, it’s fine with me. In other words, only when you know they would consent or when they have consented.
I feel a bit icky when reading both versions. A slightly less icky version would be: ”… that stubborn but lovable species, the American partner.” I really dislike the idea of treating the two sexes as separate species, especially given how much people already do this.
I also kind of dislike the idea of training your partner like that because it feels manipulative, but that is mostly a question of how you use it. As long as you only do it on behaviours that your partner agrees are good/bad and want to do more/less, it’s fine with me. In other words, only when you know they would consent or when they have consented.