You seem to be assuming, in the example, that the husband doesn’t WANT to be modified to put away his laundry. Is that correct?
Yes.
If so, is it correct that your objection is “you’re manipulating me in to a state I don’t desire” rather than simply “you’re manipulating me”? Given that you PERSONALLY find soiled clothes disgusting, would you PERSONALLY appreciate reinforcement that helped you overcome such a habit?
Yes.
Yes.