Hmm—my goal is to inform the other person of the error. This does not require them to respond.
Your goal is a lot more than pointing out an error. You have social ends you wish to achieve—hence your whole participation in the thread. It is that element of communication that is not mere information that we are all discussing.
In actual practice I behave the way I described; I like to think that if this were drastically counterproductive for my goals, I would have noticed by now.
At any rate, the goal under discussion was informing the other person of the error in a way that didn’t result in defensiveness or aggression.
At any rate, the goal under discussion was informing the other person of the error in a way that didn’t result in defensiveness or aggression.
I am comfortable with the relevance of my statements to the goal under discussion as described by yourself, above. I can attest to the superiority of Perplexed’s approach to precisely said goal. When done well it will produce less defensiveness and aggression.
What you do personally in your life isn’t a subject that I have or would comment on—I speak only to the specific context here wherein Perplexed presented a near-optimal solution.
Hmm—my goal is to inform the other person of the error. This does not require them to respond.
Your goal is a lot more than pointing out an error. You have social ends you wish to achieve—hence your whole participation in the thread. It is that element of communication that is not mere information that we are all discussing.
In actual practice I behave the way I described; I like to think that if this were drastically counterproductive for my goals, I would have noticed by now.
At any rate, the goal under discussion was informing the other person of the error in a way that didn’t result in defensiveness or aggression.
I am comfortable with the relevance of my statements to the goal under discussion as described by yourself, above. I can attest to the superiority of Perplexed’s approach to precisely said goal. When done well it will produce less defensiveness and aggression.
What you do personally in your life isn’t a subject that I have or would comment on—I speak only to the specific context here wherein Perplexed presented a near-optimal solution.