Thanks Isparrish. It was pretty hard to get all of that out. Your grandmother’s funeral sermon sounds like so many other funerals that I’ve attended. The need to pretend death out of existence just seems so central to what religious approaches to death are all about. The other side of it, saying that death is exactly what it seems, feels so daunting. The fact that their memories lives on can feel flimsy, even if it is absolutely true. I don’t have a neat and clean method of dealing with grief, but preserving those memories for yourself I believe is integral, or at least it was for me.
That’s something I really learned from my dad’s life. He was an electron microscopist, and I believe he did some great, if unheralded, work in his lifetime. I believe doing good work in general, in any number of different fields, can add to the general good in the world. Add to that loving people you have in your life, anyone has tremendous potential for adding to the good of the world.
Thanks Isparrish. It was pretty hard to get all of that out. Your grandmother’s funeral sermon sounds like so many other funerals that I’ve attended. The need to pretend death out of existence just seems so central to what religious approaches to death are all about. The other side of it, saying that death is exactly what it seems, feels so daunting. The fact that their memories lives on can feel flimsy, even if it is absolutely true. I don’t have a neat and clean method of dealing with grief, but preserving those memories for yourself I believe is integral, or at least it was for me.
Memory is flimsy, but the good that people do can have effects which last for quite a while, even if it isn’t connected to their names.
That’s something I really learned from my dad’s life. He was an electron microscopist, and I believe he did some great, if unheralded, work in his lifetime. I believe doing good work in general, in any number of different fields, can add to the general good in the world. Add to that loving people you have in your life, anyone has tremendous potential for adding to the good of the world.